Do you mean that you're converting from a temporary ileostomy to a permanent colostomy?
If so, ask your doctor (or better still, your stoma nurse) if you will be able to irrigate in the future. This could mean you don't have to wear a bag, just give yourself a water enema once every 24 - 48 hours which returns all the stool at once. You should have no output the rest of the time. If your stoma nurse doesn't believe in irrigation (and unfortunately, there are some who don't) find one who does.
Stool from a colostomy will be much firmer than that from an ileostomy because there is large bowel left to absorb some of the water from it.
I'm not sure what you mean by " The surgeons have said that it can take you up to 9 months to be able to eat and have control" You should be able to eat about
4 - 7 days after your op (as soon as there are bowel sounds). Some colostomates can learn to control their output by what they eat but this does take time and even if they don't achieve this control, they can wear a bag full time and it won't really matter anyway.
"Also deos your bum get sore i have read alot about
bum burn any tips."
You shouldn't be passing stool via your bum with a colostomy (or ileostomy). Sometimes you may pass mucous but this is normal and you will probably be experiencing this now with your ileostomy anyway.
Angel Baby: "I have not returned to work yet because I still have not been able to control my BMs not knowing if it is going to be gas or an actual BM."
If you wear a bag full time, this really should not matter in the course of the day. I have an ileo and as such, am unable to control when it works. But really, it doesn't matter because it all goes into the bag anyway. Is there something else other than this preventing you from returning to work? Please do not let this prevent you from working or going anywhere. Everyone goes to the loo. We go a bit more frequently (the average for an ileostomate is 4 - 6 times a day) but even so, if it's more, just excuse yourself and go. There's no need to be ashamed of it and people aren't going to think any less of you just because you have to go to the loo. I can understand how the fatigue would prevent you from going out, but please don't let your ostomy control your life in the same way.
Best of luck.
I have had an ileostomy for 30 years now due to UC.
I'm not a complete idiot - some parts of me are missing!