worried about my mum, can u help?

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   Posted 9/10/2006 5:51 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there,
Hope it's okay to post on this forum. My mum is currently in hospital having had surgery 3 days ago. Sorry I don't know the  correct medical terms but i'll try to explain. She had a colostomy fitted 18 months ago which is non reversable. She also had her bottom closed. Since then she's managed admirably with the bag but has suffered constant abdominal pain ever since. 6 months ago her stoma collapsed and surgery repaired it and a hernia found undeneath. This time she was admitted by her consultant to repair another hernia which was about the size of a grapefruit. She has been unable to walk for about 3 weeks. Her surgery apparently went well, they repaired the hernia with pigs skin and she is recovering. I just wondered if anyone has any info on why she is suffering these hernias, anything she can do to avoid then recurring again and how long will she take to recover from this last op. She's now severely depressed and I just want to try and help in some way. The docs don't really tell her very much and they are saying she's going to be discharged tomorrow (0nly day 4???) is this too early, she says she's not ready to come home physically she's still in pain and emotionally she's a wreck. Any help would be hugely appreciated. Thank You
Chillblain Pattern LE, tachycardia, unknown bowel problems

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   Posted 9/11/2006 4:35 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello Lion00 :-)

If I am not already too late with my reply.would you be able to speak to the Doctors at the hospital and explain your concerns? Tell them that you feel that you and your Mom both agree that she isnt ready to come home yet and that you are concerned that she wont cope very well if they insist on sending her home.

Also,does your Mom have a stoma nurse that she can call on when she has any concerns or worries?If not ask the hospital about getting her one.

I would imagine that your Mom will have a follow up apointment at the hospital in a few weeks so that they can check on how she is doing. Tell her to write down any questions that she has such as "why do the hernias occurr" and what can she do to help prevent them.

One thing that I can say is that she musnt try to do any lifting for quite a while. Even taking wet washing from the machine can cause problems if a person hasnt healed properly after surgery.

Please come back and let us know how she gets on

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   Posted 9/11/2006 4:51 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for your reply Bag Lady. I have spoken with the nursing staff this morning and they have decided my mum isn't able to come home. She has an infection around the stoma and they have discovered she now has MRSA. More bad news. Not sure how she's going to cope with this one. Do you know of any good websites I can look at regarding the recurrence of hernias? and the use of pig skin oppose to the mesh. I'm not up on the medical side of things and I'm having trouble finding the right sites. Your help is greatly appreciated. Cath
Chillblain Pattern LE, tachycardia, unknown bowel problems

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   Posted 9/11/2006 9:37 AM (GMT -6)   

OMG re MRSA!  So prevalent and so many potential problems.  Glad they are keeping her in hosp - hope they get MRSA under control quickly.

Lifting is the biggest cause for hernia.  NoThing! heaver than a gallon of milk .. about 7 pounds.  If she is stubborn about picking up and carrying laundry, groceries, grandchildren, or anything else, she'll wind up back in the same situation. 

Of course she is depressed.  She has been through so much already, she is just plain tired.  It's hard/impossible to be cherry when your world keeps getting turned upside down and you are in pain.  Consider anti-depressant meds and possibly post-op counselling, somewhere she can honestly express how she feels without 'dumping' on supportive family.

Keep up your research ... she is indeed fortunate to have a proactive daughter as an advocate!   :-)

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