I have a j-pouch but did have a temp ileostomy, I will do my best to answer your questions:
1. Normal ostomy stool, if it's a permanent ostomy, will be like paste but can vary based on diet.
2. I had no dietary restictions but that too seems to vary from person to person. Some have trouble with popcorn and nuts and some vegetables. My ostomy seemed to handle it all.
3. You can safely drink again once you are off all pain medications.
4. You won't lose much weight due to organ loss. An empty colon weighs about 10 ounces. Toss in another couple ounces of rectum and you are looking at around 1 pound. However, the stress of surgery and lack of calories during recovery will have you losing about 10 more pounds. I was so sick prior to surgery that I actually gained weight after surgery and haven't stopped since LOL!!
5. Most people gain weight once they are healthy but this does vary from person to person.
6. The CCFA (Crohn's and Colitis Foundation of America) has support meetings in the US, not sure if they have them in Canada but you can check their website at www.ccfa.org Also many hospitals have support group meetings for j-pouchers and ostomates. Check at your local hospital.
7. We must be related! My family tried to talk me out of surgery and actually came up with some other reasons why I was so ill. However, after surgery and after I bounced back to good health (rather quickly) they came around. Go with your instinct, stay positive and strong, and the family should come around.
dx proctitis in 1987
dx UC in 1991, was stable until 1998
1998 started prednisone, asacol, pentasa, nortriptylene, ativan, 6MP, rowasa enemas and suppositories, hydrocortisone enemas, tried the SCD diet, being a vegetarian, omega 3s, flax, pranic healing, yoga, acupuncture, probiotics
2000 lost all my B-12 stores and became anemic
2001 opted for j-pouch surgery- now living life med-free