It is far better to go into surgery knowing the procedure and the steps of recovery than not. I have seen that those who did not do their homework (speaking of the j-pouch surgery) and went into surgery with no knowledge, had a more difficult recovery and were less patient with the process. It would be very beneficial for both you and your husband to read up on the surgery he is selecting and talk with people who have had it.
dx proctitis in 1987
dx UC in 1991, was stable until 1998
1998 started prednisone, asacol, pentasa, nortriptylene, ativan, 6MP, rowasa enemas and suppositories, hydrocortisone enemas, tried the SCD diet, being a vegetarian, omega 3s, flax, pranic healing, yoga, acupuncture, probiotics
2000 lost all my B-12 stores and became anemic
2001 opted for j-pouch surgery- now living life med-free