Krissie, my name is Sharon but everyone calls me Shaz :)
It sounds like you have pulled a muscle but keep an eye on it just in case. I'm betting that what you're passing is mucous too - it shows that everything is still working as it should be back there. "Bowel intact" people pass mucous all the time - they just don't examine their poop that closely and so don't notice it - it's what helps everything slide along nicely. Mucous from your rectum after surgery often looks a brownish colour - it could be that there's some old blood from your surgery mixed in there. If it's bright red, that means fresh blood and that's when you start to worry :)
You'll probably still pass the brownish mucous from time to time - as I said, it just shows that's what is left is still doing it's job properly (unfortunately, it's something the doctors often forget to warn you about
and sends some people into a panic because they feel that nothing should be coming via the rectum after surgery). It's usually (but not always) accompanied by the dreaded Phantom Rectal Pain. This just means that you still feel the need to go to the loo in the 'old' way even though you know you can't - your body has to get used to it's new plumbing. It's like when someone has a limb amputated but can still 'feel' it when the missing hand or foot is itchy.
I'm 40 years old and have had my ileo since I was 10 years old so I know how you're feeling on the 'guy' front. Believe me, the majority of guys will have no problem with your ostomy when you're ready to start dating again. Nowhere in any personal ads have I ever seen "must be tidy, have a sense of humour, and poop via your rectum and anus". How you poop is simply not an issue for most people.
With any ostomy surgery, I've always said it's 30% physical and 70% mental. The body image part is the hardest part of the surgery to get over. With time and a lot of support, you'll soon realise that you're the same person you always were. Just like some people wear glasses to correct an eyesight problem, some people wear bags to correct a bowel problem - and our advantage is that no one knows we have a bag unless we tell them :)
I'm betting you don't smell - you're just more conscious of it now you have an ostomy esp since your nose is right over the top of your bag when you empty whereas before when it was coming from behind, the smell had further to travel to get to your nose. I've found the easiest (and cheapest) way to eliminate odour when you empty is to put a few drops of 3% hydrogen peroxide into my bag when I empty (no stronger than the 3% which is used for cuts and scrapes) and next time I empty there is no odour at all!
If you're experiencing odour other than when emptying, it's a good indication that you're developing a leak somewhere and it's time to change. With today's appliances, there really is no need for you to 'smell' in normal everyday activities.
Hope this helps - I've added you to Yahoo Messenger so, hopefully, we can chat next time we're both online together.
I have had an ileostomy for 30 years now due to UC.