Shaz- Believe me, I understand your point. But, I don't think you understand mine completely. Hopefully if I explain myself further you'll understand. Many people look to these forums because they are very depressed, not thinking clearly, and they're seeking a way to cope with their condition. I too was quite depressed shortly after my surgery. So much so that I attempted suicide!!! Several members of my local ostomy association attempted suicide as well. Unfortunatley, some of them succeeded. Here's my story....about
18 years ago my wife strained her back carrying my then 2 year old son to bed. He had fallen asleep in the car on the way home from my In-laws. This would normally be my job. But, obviously due to my surgery I couldn't do any heavy lifting. The doctor presribed pain killers and muscle relaxers for her back. My wife doesn't like to take pills so she never used them. On a particularly depressing day I swallowed the contents of both bottles, went to sleep, and didn't plan on ever waking up! I wasn't thinking clearly and I know God will forgive me for it. This was the one time I was actually grateful to fail at something.
Since then I have been extremely sensitive to the emotional well-being of my fellow ostomates. Hey, I know we all like to vent in this forum. But it bothered me when I saw a post that could have a negative impact on a new ostomate. Eventually I became a registered visitor with the United Ostomy Association, visiting patients in the local hospitals who recently underwent ostomy surgery. Over the years a few of the people that I visited called me at home and told me that I may have saved their life because they too were contemplating suicide!!!
So now I hope you can understand that I wasn't complaining about the post just to be difficult. I was complaining because I care about my fellow ostomy brothers and sisters who are feeling very low and don't know where to turn. A post like this can make a depressed and irrational person feel even worse. You see, sometimes words , although innocent in their intent, can be very dangerous to the wrong person.
So, although it seems my original plan backfired on me, how about sharing a story about how your ostomy has made a marked improvement on your life? I'm sure it would mean a lot to someone. Whaddaya say????