Ask her to put your in touch with a Stoma Nurse BEFORE surgery.
Your surgeon can tell you the mechanics of putting the Ostomy together but your stoma nurse is going to be your lifeline before and after surgery.
Your stoma nurse will watch you standing, walking, take into consideration the clothes you wear and will mark the best place for your stoma accordingly. If possible, as the nurse for some sample bags before surgery and wear them (maybe filled with applesauce or similar) to get a 'feel' for what to expect afterwards.
Also, before signing the consent forms, make sure you write into it that AFTER the swelling goes down, you want your stoma to be at least 1 - 2 inches long. Too many surgeons make stomas flush to the skin thinking they look better but don't think of the problems the patient will have with it afterwards. A stoma that pokes out will output stool into the bag easier than a flush stoma, where stool can seep under the wafer and often necessitate a wafer with convexity. A stoma that sticks out won't guarantee that stool won't get under the wafer (it probably will at times) but there is less chance of it happening than with a flush stoma.
I have had an ileostomy for 31 years now due to UC.
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