vballcl, welcome to Healing Well. I'm sorry you've had so many troubles since your surgery. Regarding your inverted stoma, I've heard that Convex Inserts can really help. For the skin issue, you can put Calmoseptine Ointment on your skin around your stoma to protect it from getting irritated. If you Google both items, you will see where you can purchase them. Also, there are several women here who have had babies post surgery, and everything was fine.
fmorr, welcome. I'm sorry you're having trouble, too. I have a permanent ileostomy, so I don't know what to do post reversal, but there are lots of people here who have had reversal surgery and will give you great advice. Have you told your surgeon about your troubles? Hopefully, you will get some relief soon. You might want to post your own question, so more people who have had reversals can see it.
Wishing you both the best, and please keep us posted on how you're doing.
Dx'd Crohn's in '99 at 28. Proctocolectomy and ileostomy in '06.
Disease-free, medicine-free, and very thankful to be healthy again :)