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Glad Bag
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   Posted 9/21/2007 7:38 PM (GMT -6)   
so, a regular on the board here (to remain anonymous) asked me earlier what it was like when I met someone in real life that I had only known online.

In my case, it was no big deal, i met a lady that was part of a young person's support group and we were first part of a Yahoo group before I met her in real life. She was married anyway, i had been invited to see her husband perform at a magic show, so it was pretty anti-climatic, but it was good to meet another Crohnie in real life.

I have talked about the friend I have that lives nearby who i recently learned also has an ostomy, but i met him before he was sick, and knew him anyway.

However, what i am more and more curious about, is if any of you have had a romance or developed a more involved relationship, even if it was just as friends, after meeting someone in real life, that you had initially met online, through a forum like this (or any online forum, for that matter)?

so, please folks....tell all. Have any of you met in real life, thru this forum?

have any of you met someone else online thru another forum?

You hear about people that meet online, and some of them seem to end up happy together, or maybe just end up as friends.

Of course, you also hear the horror stories about those creeps out there. I am sure there are a lot of creeps, but i bet, just like in real life, most people online, especially on a site like this, that is based on healthier living and emotional support, i bet most people online are just regular people.

Anyway, i was just curious. I myself do email back and forth with a few people i have met solely online. Anyone else do the same, have you taken it further, what was it like?

Of course, you would have preconceived ideas about a person, based purely on what you know about them from your online experience.

Just something i wanted to open up for discussion. Any of you ladies on here, no i have jokingly tried to hit on some of the women here, just wondered if I wasn't the first, and if any of you (or others from the past) actually hit it off....
"All we need is is all we need"

Glad Bag
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   Posted 9/21/2007 7:42 PM (GMT -6)   
darn! i tried to post a poll with this topic, but it didn't take....whatever...i am probably running an "ID10T" on my system....
"All we need is is all we need"

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   Posted 9/21/2007 9:18 PM (GMT -6)   
i have never dated anyone i met on line, but i have a few very close friends that i met on line, on another forum,and have never seen IRL, i do talk to them on the phone though. One of those met her now husband on that forum, but that is one of those horror stories. he doesn't allow her to tlak to anyone so we don;t know much about what is going on now, but when they first started talking, they didnt'really know much about each other, but later it was discoverd that he was 40 years older than her, but they got married, the day they first met IRL, and it is not a happy marriage.
I am a mod on that forum, it's not a medical forum, but everyone on there is very close, and we often talk about a group meeting, but since we are spread all over the world, it's hard

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   Posted 9/21/2007 9:43 PM (GMT -6)   
I have met several good "friends", very caring individuals on another forum, also Not related to medical stuff. We can talk about anything and everything. What a great group of people. 4 of us got together in March of this year. One of them I had never drove 12 hrs for our weekend get together! We had a blast that weekend. That's my only experience meeting anyone.
Diagnosed with CD in 1979, many resections and meds
Perm Ileostomy July 1984 at Cleveland Clinic
Disease free since surgery 

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   Posted 9/22/2007 12:53 AM (GMT -6)   
I belong to several forums because of my health and hobbies. I belong to an MS forum and a gardening forum. I also have myspace pages for the cartoon I write.

I met one lady from the gardening forum. She lives pretty close to me. I'm married so I wouldn't meet any men unless it was a group of us getting together.

I've made some really good friendships online so I don't think it would really be that odd meeting them in person. It was great having lunch w/ the lady I met on the gardening channel.

I must say I've met the most interesting ppl on myspace. The cartoon lends itself to the younger group of ppl and I find them facinating. I've gotten cussed out a couple times, but that's to be expected. But most are really nice kids just trying to find their way like the rest of us were at that age.

Very interesting topic.

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   Posted 9/22/2007 4:30 AM (GMT -6)   
This is the only online forum I've ever belonged to and have never met anyone in person. I was going to visit Amey while she was in the hospital for surgery, but she was discharged the day before I was going to stop by.

I have a single friend at work who has met a couple of guys in our town through, and she has been pleased. She always meets them for the first time at a public place, like Starbucks, so she feels safe.

Glad, are you thinking about signing up for online dating?

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   Posted 9/22/2007 5:18 AM (GMT -6)   
I belong to several different ostomy forums and chats. On one of them, the UK people regularly arrange meetups at different places for people on the board. On another, all us Aussies got together for a weekend (from all across Australia). On yet another, the West Aussies got together and met up for lunch and we had a great time. The other Australian states on that same board arrange meetups once or twice a year too. A lot of the USA people on a couple of boards regularly meet up as well via their UOAA Ostomy conference. On most of the ostomy boards a lot of people have met simply cos they've developed friendships via the board and live close enough to each other to actually meet up.

I have made many wonderful friends via the boards and regularly meet up with some in real life. It's great to be able to actually meet someone you've chatted with online for a while.
I have had an ileostomy for 31 years now due to UC.
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   Posted 9/22/2007 7:19 PM (GMT -6)   
I used to belong to a forum when I was younger. It was a parents forum and it really helped me a lot when my husband and I moved to Utah and had no family there. My children were very small then and I needed a place to vent and ask questions. Someone in the forum requested that all of us take a trip to Vegas and meet each other. I went. It was lots of fun! I met any people and stayed in a hotel with a lady I had only talked to on the internet. I do not talk to any of those parents any more but for a over a year, they were a huge help to me. I also had a friend who attempted online dating. He moved here to Fl and they shacked-up for a while. The relationship did not go well and he moved home about a year later.

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   Posted 9/22/2007 11:45 PM (GMT -6)   
I actually met my husband while hosting yahoo domino tourniments online. He is 13 yrs older than I am but age is just a number.  A cpl months after just chatting on yahoo msngr and in yahoo games we began talking on the phone for hours each night. I at the time lived in RI and he in CA. He is origionally from MA and always wanted to move back to the east coast. I was separated from my 1st hubby at the time when I met Eric online. A week after my divorce was final I up and moved me and my cats to CA with only a pic of him and many phone calls...he would IM me too but I had a webcam so he wasnt afraid I was showing him a pic of some random photo I found elsewhere. My family thought I was nuts 4 moving in with him having never met him face to face before. I didnt move furniture and I bought a cheap car while out there rather than having my 99 malubi in CA. He is the greatest thing that ever happened to me.

After moving there in Oct 2003 my parents flew out in July 03 for a week for vacation, see me and meet him. At this point we were engaged 2 months. We moved back to RI the day after thanksgiving 2005. The rates were cheapest on that day during that long weekend. We lived with my folks til we both had jobs and enough $ to get an apartment. I started a job in Feb 05, he was still getting unemployment checks from getting laid off at his job in CA. He got a job 3 months after I did and we got our own place in August 2005. Our wedding was Oct 1 2005 and he is an absolutely amazing person, husband, and best friend

Dx with Crohn's 1987, symptoms as early as 1984.
Temp iliostomy February 2007, reversed June 2007, Ovarian cysts, migraines, allergies (incl food allergies) , oral allergy syndrome (diff than true food allergies), Asthma, Gall Bladder removed 1999, Inguenal hernia 1987

Post Edited (dragonfly137927) : 9/22/2007 10:45:36 PM (GMT-6)

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