Oh Ralph, I'm sorry to hear that and will definitely remember you in my prayers.
Maybe you should go and talk to a surgeon or was this a surgeon? Maybe they can do some type of surgery that will be less stressful on your heart? An epidural maybe?
Did your stoma start out this large? Do you have a disease process going on that caused it to be this large?
If you decide not to do the surgery, get out and do all the things you've always wanted to do, use up all your assets, do what YOU want. My father-in-law has an extremely aggressive form of melanoma that took him by surprise and his time is almost up. He saved his entire life and now wishes he would have done more. And it doesn't always take money, most times it just takes TIME.
My thoughts are with you, let us know what you decide.
49 years old, CD since I was a child.
Six resection surgeries, permanent ostomy, adverse reactions to Remicade, finally off of Prednisone, back on 6MP for maintenance, hoping for a long remission from this last surgery.