First, when you type in all caps and/or all bold, it's the same as screaming on the internet. I know you feel terrible but I don't think you meant to scream it all, lol.
Second, If you have this pain again, at all, I would contact a good GI. It may be "normal" but pain is usually a symptom that something is wrong.
Third, it really stinks that you had no ostomy nurse to help you. Do you have home health nurses? Do they know anything? Please ask any questions you need on here, there are no dumb questions.
Good luck and let us know what happens.
49 years old, Crohn's Disease
Six resection surgeries, permanent ostomy, adverse reactions to Remicade, back on 6MP for maintenance, hoping for a long remission from this last surgery.