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Gillcom
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   Posted 12/2/2007 4:02 AM (GMT -7)   
I wake up each morning and switch my laptop on first thing, the forum is the first thing i think about. I so wish i had found it when i first came out off hospital - Feb 06. At least i've found it now, i sometimes have nothing to say but find all of your comments really interesting and usually find myself nodding in agreement. I am waiting on my date for reversal which is going to be around end of Jan, and i am terrified about going back into surgery, but i have a wonderful family around me, thank god. My husband recently left me and i have two young boys 5 and 2 and just coming on to this forum has given me strength just knowing i can talk or not talk when i want to. You all have so much to give and share, Thanks again, Gillian. 

peggy113
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   Posted 12/2/2007 5:02 AM (GMT -7)   
Gillian,

It's so good to hear from you again! Yes, I will agree with you - this forum is great. There are a lot of really nice people here who care and someone out there has been in your shoes... the head nodding goes for me as well. Isn't like an extended family?

Please feel free to post anytime... and join in on our 'chats'. Do you know about those?
Peggy
      
Diagnosed with CD in 1979, many resections and meds
Perm Ileostomy July 1984 at Cleveland Clinic
Disease free since surgery 
 


Gillcom
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   Posted 12/2/2007 9:12 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Peggy, and yes i know about the chat's, i must try and join in one day!

Tom1
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   Posted 12/2/2007 11:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Gillian - Your husband recently left you and you have two young boys? And you are waiting to go in for a reversal? What is it with this guy???????

Gillcom
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   Posted 12/2/2007 12:53 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Tom, i know it all sounds bizarre! and let me tell you it is, my husband of 9 yrs has "come out". He left in march and nobody was more shocked than me! but hey, we have found ourselves in a new "relationship" we are first and foremost mummy and daddy, and we are still very close, it is very hard coping with - stoma, hernia, two kids, and a you know what husband but he see's us quite alot. He is also taking time off work while i'm in having my op to look after the kids. So that gives me peace of mind. I know this is way of the subject but i just felt like sharing today, Gillian.

peggy113
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   Posted 12/2/2007 1:14 PM (GMT -7)   
Gillian,

I am sooo glad that he is an involved father. That is at least a blessing for you. And that you two are still speaking and have a bit different relationship with him. Still, it had to be a shock.

Keep your health as your priority so that you can take care of the two little ones.

You know you can share with us anytime. We can be your online family!!

Take care,
Peggy
      
Diagnosed with CD in 1979, many resections and meds
Perm Ileostomy July 1984 at Cleveland Clinic
Disease free since surgery 
 


Irish_Mom
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   Posted 12/2/2007 1:21 PM (GMT -7)   
Gillian
 
Welcome to the forum...you won't find a better group of people anywhere! I'm so sorry to hear of the difficulties that you're facing. It must be even harder with two little ones. The same thing happened to my friend and her husband of ten years; he came out. Not to be out of line, but I do hope you got 'tested' just to make sure everything is a-ok.
Terri
 
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Total colectomy in September 2007 for colonic inertia.
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Gillcom
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   Posted 12/2/2007 2:49 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Terri, i havent been tested because my husband did not have intimate relations until we separated, i have been to doctors and blood bourne virus councellers and they have o-kayed this. He has been tested though and all is clear. Thanks for your concern and reply.

Slice
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   Posted 12/2/2007 4:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Gillian,
 
More power to ya girl. I couldn't imagine raising my kids by myself considering my health. My wife has been great through everything.  Don't be afraid to say whatever you feel here.
Believe me, i never thought i'd have as many conversations about my ass as i have had here..
 Keep your head up!
 
Crohn's for what seems like forever
Bagged in August 2006
@ssless as of 11/2007
 
 


Amey
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   Posted 12/2/2007 5:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Slice...what ***?

Gillian, You sound like an amazing person. I cannot fathum having this type of surgery, two kids, and then have my hubby tell me when wants to be a she. That would be enough to through me over edge. WOW, you really are amazing. I am so glad that you have this forum as an outlet. It has been a huge blessing to my life. I look forward to reading your posts and comments. It is always nice to have new people to chime in with their ideas and suggestions.
Amey
 
 
Ileostomy 8/2007
Revised Coletomy/ Reset Anastimosis 2006
Revised Colectomy/ Obstructions 2005
Sub-total Colectomy 2001
 
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Indabag
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   Posted 12/2/2007 6:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Gillian:
 
Glad to have you aboard. Life takes a lot of unusual turns (we call them curves in the USA!) and you certainly seem to have your share! I'm glad your ex is there for you and the kids. You seem to have a great attitude and that will be a great help in the future. I wholeheartedly agree that this forum is a tremendous asset. Keep reading and posting!
 
Richard

Gillcom
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   Posted 12/3/2007 3:22 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks everyone for reading and replying, it means alot to me. Can i just say i never thought i was a strong person before, but it just shows you how you have to be when the going gets tough! Gillian.

flchurchlady
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   Posted 12/4/2007 1:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Gillian,
I had my surgery in February 2006, too, but didn't find this forum until July 2007. I also wish that I had found it much sooner, because I have met the nicest people here.

Thanks for sharing what's going on in your life. I just wanted to let you know that my dad also came out after being married to my mom for 18 years. It was a surprise to us all, but you know what? It didn't get in the way of him being greatest dad ever! He loved his children more than anything and was always there for us. He passed away last year from heart problems at age 70, and I miss him every day.

My mom and dad always remained friends, which was good for us. She remarried and has been with her husband for 26 years now. I just wanted to share my story to let you know that you are doing the right thing by supporting him and recognizing that his role as a dad does not change because of this.

Keeping you lifted up in prayer,
Cecilia

Gillcom
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   Posted 12/4/2007 2:36 AM (GMT -7)   
Cecilia,

Thank you sooo much for your kind words, i am still very emotional at times but when i hear from families like you who have been there, it gives me great comfort to know that what i am doing is the right thing. I am really just going with instinct, so it does feel right. Thank you again.

sfgiantsjo
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   Posted 12/4/2007 9:43 AM (GMT -7)   
I agree with everyone. I <3 this forum. Thank goodness for the people here. Everyone is so nice and helpful. As well as full of good advice. I don't know what I'd do if it weren't for the folks on this board.
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Asacol: 1600 MG daily
Immuran: 150 MG daily
Prednisone: 4 MG daily (Woo-Hooo! Getting lower and lower!)
Remicade: Infusion every 7 weeks
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vette guy
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   Posted 12/4/2007 3:45 PM (GMT -7)   
sfgiantsjo said...
I agree with everyone. I <3 this forum. Thank goodness for the people here. Everyone is so nice and helpful. As well as full of good advice. I don't know what I'd do if it weren't for the folks on this board.

sfgiantsjo- How's the skin problem under your wafer doing?
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