ever since i got sick eight years ago, people treat me like i am weakling, and there were times i couldn't do much, but even then i could carry things, and what not. Even now, after my surgery, my 78 year old grandma will take stuff from me and say it's too heavy for me, she will carry it. A few weeks ago, my 83 year old great aunt, had this box and she was carrying it and i said, i will take it and she says, "oh it's very heavy i don't know if you can handle it or not" but she gave me the box anyway, and it weighed like one pound, literally and the whole time i am carrying it she is fretting over it.
I used to have a job where i had to pick up generators and pressure washers, another job where i picked up tv's and i worked on stock teams some too when i was in management training. All while i was sick, and those things are really heavy. But for some reason, my family, except for my sister, all seem to think i am incapable of doing anything at all for myself. My Mom isnt' too bad but she does it some too. they also act like i need to be protected from everything. Which is annoying because i have been through two abusive relationships, losing many family members and friends, and suffered eight years of chronic illness and chronic pain, dealing with an embarssing deblilating disease, most of that time working a full time job, and part of that time caring full time for a child and a home, and having a part time job, and then having a major surgery that complelted altered my life and my body, and i came through it all still smiling, without the use of any kind of anti-depressants or drinkign or anything like that. And you know, I think that makes me a pretty strong person. I am so tired of being treated like I can't do anything.
Do people treat ya'll like that? and if they do, how do you deal with it?