I happy to hear so many of you already have loving and understanding partners. I, however, am with Matt, being a single guy in this situation is just plain lame....
Matt, you really should try the Ace bandage technique. I bought one that is self-sticking (it sticks to itself as you wrap it around your waist). Just fold up your pouch and wrap the bandage around your waist so that the pouch is then tucked away under the bandage (ace bandages are what you use on a sprained ankle or wrist).
As for how you approach women about
the subject, it is always a challenge. I have started to become more confident since I have been able to cross this bridge with a couple girls since my surgery.
I think the best approach is something like, "so....a while back, I ended up getting pretty sick with this whole crohn's disease thing, and well, I had to make a really tough decision and ended up having a pretty intense surgery. I am so much better now though, so I know it was the right choice, but it did leave me a little different than I was before"
that's when the girl will probably ask, "like different how? or what do you mean?" and you simply say, well, "let just say i don't really take a cr@p anymore in the traditional sense, you see" and then just do it bro, just pull up your shirt and they get the picture really quickly.
I know it seems like an impossible task, but once you have done it, it becomes much easier. I really believe now that most women respect a man who has the courage to do what he has to do to help himself, and that includes something like having such an intense, life-changing surgery as we have had.
Sadly though, getting past the first hurdle of telling them about
your appliance does not mean you have won the battle. For instance, I was seeing one girl for a while not long ago. I was able to tell her pretty quickly about
the whole deal, and we got together....but it did not work out. I know that she was not right for me, but I also still wonder if the appliance did bother her. It's just part of the reality of our situation, but the more you can confront the issue, the easier it will become. I am sure of it.
Anyway, so I really recommend you try the ace bandage. I think I remember you mentioning you already use a mini-pouch, which is obviously a better choice then a full-size pouch.
ok, everyone, I got to get back to work, and I will be in Mammoth snowboarding for the next week including New Years Eve so enjoy the rest of the holidays!
and remember if you must drink and drive, drink Pepsi!
"The things that make us feel so abnormal, are actually the things that make us all the same" - from PostSecret: Extraordinary Confessions from Ordinary Lives - by Frank Warren