My mom does not act depressed just angry and wants to blame someone for her PD. I guess I get the brunt of it since I am the only child that wants anything to do with her. When she did go to the ER she laughed and made jokes with everyone that attended to her. She will talk and joke with a friend that comes by and even with my x husband. She never pulls any stunts when there is someone else around, never lies nor throws her food on the floor, or even does the fake cry that she has down pat. She does not have a regular doctor and refuses to go see any doctor about the PD. I have pleaded and begged and threatened to leave her at the hospital, but she steadfastly refuses to go see a doctor about her PD. When I told her that she has to stop doing the things that she is doing (meanness, throwing food, wrappers, etc. around, whining only to me when she wants something, rather then just ask-which she does for anyone else and all the other things that she does just for me) her response was to urinate in the bed this morning. She has never urinated in the bed before and she makes sure to tell me if she has to go all the time before I confronted her with her behavior towards me. No one at the hospital gave me any help or gave me any information of who I could contact. As I said there is a year + wait for care homes and the last DR. in the ER that she seen said to her and me both that she was doing fine and that she did not need to be in a nursing home. This was even after I spoke to him separately about what she could really do and what she told him that she does. I guess I will have to chalk it up to dementia and wait till she has to be put in a mental ward of the local poorhouse, although I have to say it is more likely that I will end up there first.
Neither of us owns a house nor has a lot of money, there is no chapter or group to help anyone deal with PD or a caretaker. Thank you for your advice if things get any worse I guess I will have to call an ambulance to take her to the ER again and just not take no for an answer from the DR. about the care home.