Can PD cause you to want to start a new life....alone?
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Posted 3/3/2015 7:42 PM (GMT -7)
My husband was diagnosed with PD 4 years ago. Luckily, he has had a rather slow progression thus far. Everyone has noticed an extreme change in his personality over the past few years....to the point where I convinced him to call dr for depression meds. He called, but never took them.
Over the past year, he has been telling me he wants to be alone....he wants a divorce and wants to date others - after 30 years of marriage. I have been having such a hard time coping with this, as I never saw it coming. When we got his diagnosis 4 years ago, I vowed to take care of him just as he took care of me through the years.
He started seeing a counselor recently, and she has convinced him the right thing to do is to move out. I insisted on going to the neurologist with him last week and I told the dr how unemotional and deattached he has become - his life priorities have done a 180! At the dr's urging, he promised he'd to take the depression meds. However, I am still beside myself knowing this counselor is telling him the best thing to do is leave! He has no one but me.....our 2 children are grown, living away and trying to establish their careers. He occasionally needs help buttoning buttons, opening things.....isolating himself in my eyes is the worst thing he could do!
I also feel he is being selfish....cutting me out would put my 2 kids in a position to be more involved in his health - his siblings could never undertake this! He also told me he would not tell a "new" girl about his PD (although it is getting more noticeable)
I am a wreck....I love him soooo much and want to take care of him when the time comes. He is currently living with his 82 year old mother, and I have no idea what his next move will be....he meets with his therapist tomorrow....who knows what she will tell him
Is he being irrational? Can PD cause you to think this way? Or should I just stop fighting?
Posted 3/4/2015 11:06 AM (GMT -7)
I was diagnosed a year ago. I don't have any symptoms(sometimes wonder if I really have it). Anyhow, going back to your post, I think he is being irrational. Does not have any idea what is he doing. Could he be taking one of those medicines that cause you to 'gamble-shopping-sexual addiction'?
Posted 3/5/2015 12:02 AM (GMT -7)
ElTorito beat me to the punch ... is your husband taking Requip or Mirapex (or perhaps Neupro)? Those medications are dopamine agonists and known to sometimes cause compulsive behavior-primarily sexual obsessions or gambling. If so, I would let his neuro know and discuss alternative medications.
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Posted 3/5/2015 2:42 AM (GMT -7)
I too wondered if these behaviors fall under the 'compulsive behaviors" caused from his meds. He doesn't have the mentioned obsessions.....just what is in my opinion, irrational ideas. In the course of a month, he told me he didn't care about me, the proverbial "I love you but I am not IN love with you", this house we have is meaningless to him, I want to date other people and I want to be alone. All followed by a beautiful, mushy Valentine's Day card and a letter professing his love to me and how much of a fool he is being because we have built such a wonderful life together and he loves me so much. Don't know what end is up anymore!
Posted 3/9/2015 5:48 AM (GMT -7)
Sounds to me as though he is taking Mirapex. I went through a very similar time with my husband. If he is taking an agonist, you might want to read the Mirapex Help! thread. I hope he gets help before things get even worse.
Posted 3/9/2015 7:12 AM (GMT -7)
Just read the thread....thx. Still confused as to if this is considered 'compulsive' behavior as opposed to uncharacteristic behavior. He doesn't seem obsessed with sex, but sees nothing wrong with us having sex even though he admits to having no emotions for me. Luckily, I have been strong enough to stand my ground!