Someone asked in another thread when we are considered cured.
I thought it best to start a new thread about it, since early on in my own experience I noticed the word "cured" was steadfastly avoided. That got me really scared when I realized of all the surgeons I had seen, not one of them ever said anything like "...and then you'll be cured."
Then there was the time I was doing some research and saw a definition that stopped my heart. "Prostatectomy: An ATTEMPT to cure prostate cancer...." The rest of the definition was left unread as that word "attempt" sank in. Part of my whole process was realizing the fact that this event was not something that will have happened to me and I can get over it, and forget all about it like an appendectomy. While some of us have excellent chances of never getting PCa again, it is something that will never, ever completely leave our psyche. My doctor told me I have a 98% chance of never seeing it again. But as time goes on, those percentages get lower. Even with my excellent numbers, my nomogram says I still have a 40% chance of dying of PCa in 25-30 years. While that is a long way off, and the chances are still better than not, that I will die of something else, this cancer thing was a whole long process of acceptance of my mortality. The lack of the word cure was just part of my whole acceptance process which is certainly still ongoing.
For me, just knowing parameters was helpful. No, odds are huge that I will forever be fine re: PCa. But as time goes on, I will let this whole experience be part of the imparting of wisdom that comes with age.