My husband and I are both overweight too! We are on a health kick ourselves now, so I am able to post this with a little more confidence than I would normally have !
Prior to surgery however, my husband was significantly overweight, and in US terms I think he lost about
a stone and a half. Any weight loss is beneficial if you can do it. He did put it back on after the surgery, but that was really just unfortunate. We are dropping it off again now for overall health reasons once again. The pre-op walking and weight loss that he was able to achieve really helped us, so good luck with whatever you can manage.
Hubby also does manual labour and I had to be very bossy post op. I would not let him lift anything for 3 months, but we are lucky in that he is currently not working in paid employment like you. Can you possibly get a trolly? My husband, when he insisted, negotiated with me using a trolly for backyward work, and this worked for us. Even a small load lifted from the ground is a pressure on the very spot you need to avoid stressing in any way. If you could negotiate a trolly for 3 months I reckon that may work? Would your workplace accomodate this if you could organise it?
We believe it is important not to overdo it, for your regaining of continence, and health. The surgery is all too delicate whichever way it is done, and the nerves and tissues and bladder sphincter need time to heal. Our overall details are below for your info.
We would recommend, take it easy on the lifting and do your kegals before surgery. I am not sure of how much 25lb is. Others will probably advise further I guess. The amount/weight of lifting in the weeks after after surgery should be determined by the doctor and treatment, and tends to differ (see all the threads on this), as does the amount of post-op kegals recommended. We asked the doctor specifically, and then I added another 2 weeks to be on the safe side, which is how I came up with the 12 weeks/3 months ban!!
Read as much as you can therefore. We were prepared for the incontinence after waiting 4 months for surgery, and had all the pads, but threw them ALL out at 8 weeks. My husband, like Biker90. used only one pad, and this was dry. Like the few guys who gain early control over ED, there are others like my husband and Biker, that regain immediate control of urine. We are rare, but it is possible.
We found it took many more months for the worry and anxiety to ease overall, but it is all good now. It is perfectly normal to be frightened witless by this disease. We certainly were. However using the pre-op time to research all recovery strategies was well spent. There is lots of info here. Our best wishes to your wonderful "other half".
Good luck and all the best. Lana (posting for my husband CJ).
Creed_three (Lana & CJ)
Husband CJ aged 50 yrs (49 years at diagnosis and surgery)
PSA (2002) 2.1. PSA (Nov 2006) 3.5. 1 x (5%) core of 12 positive at biopsy. 11 cores negative. Open Radical Prostatectomy with nerve sparing, on Tuesday 17th April 2007 (Sydney, Australia).
Gleeson 3 + 4 = 7. Cancer confined. Margins all clear, including bladder neck and seminal vessicles. No incontinence (thankfully).
1st PSA 0.01 - undetectable (June 07)
2nd PSA 0.02 - undetectable (Oct 07)
ED post-op recovery: Good now with Levitra 20mg effective at 7-8 months post surgery (minimal (30-50%) response prior to 6 months on any meds).Continuing with Levitra 20 mg when needed now (at 9 months), and noticing some gradual, spontaneous response without medication. Next PSA March 2008.