Greetings to you all.
I have been reading the posts in this forum for the last week. I keep searching and looking at the member's stats to try to find people with similar stats as my husband so that I can assure myself he will be fine for many years. When he originally had blood tests done in July 2007 relative to his high blood pressure, PSA was checked just for precaution. We were alarmed to find it was 20. Though at the time, had no idea what 20 really meant. His PSA was approx 2.0 in February 2006. He was quickly referred to a urologist and had a biopsy. He originally went for the results himself as he was certain there was nothing wrong. He did not have any symptoms. He was delivered the devestating news of prostate cancer. I went with him to the next appointment when he decided which option of treatment he was going to take. They very quickly sent him for a bone scan and cat scan. The severity was starting to sink in.
Fortunately, both scans were negative. He decided on a prostatectomy and is still happy with that decision. However, once again we received a shock.
When we returned last week, we were quite certain we would be told he was cured. He is having incontinence issued and ED. The worse news we expected was the ED was permanent and maybe surgery would be required to help with the incontinence.
It is almost surreal to now learn that he has to live with PC as the urologist is quite sure based on all of the results that the PC has spread beyond the local area. We thought at worse he may need radiation and that would be inconvenient. Now we have learned that radiation isn't even an option. The more I read I am realizing he has what is considered advanced prostate cancer. We found out this news last Wed and went away for four days on a trip that had already been prearranged. We had lots of laughs and did not dwell on this diagnosis. Tonight he seems depressed. I told him the first night we had the news that if love and laughter would heal this disease or put it in recession, we should be well on the way. WE are both a little weary as our positive attitudes and refusal to dwell on this challenge has so far not netted us the good news we have been looking towards.
I really don't think my husband has linked together the severity and I did not want to ask the urologist in front of him what is his prognosis. What should we expect? Is this going to be a fight? We currently think of it as a nuisance like high blood pressure. I am starting to think we are naive.... though I believe our thoughts are extremely powerful and have the ability to create!
Your thoughts or insights would be helpful.