Having love and laughter in your life is an asset to beating this condition, but be kind to yourself and if those moments get low, just go with the flow... we all need to grieve.. it is part of the healing, regardless of the situation. I can't really add much else, except to say that for quite some time I refused to see this "condition" as a journey, and thought of it more like an "experience" (similar to your BP comparison). Now I see it as very much as a journey as it will always be with us, and I still think and pray about
it every day. However we are like you, still optimistic, but on the other side of treatment for now, so easier to do, than when you are in the middle of decision-making, and still retrieving exact information to inform yourselves. Write down all your questions. In time you may need to consider prognosis if it is on your mind. I only did so once, and never discussed it with my husband as too distressed. My husband prefers not to know his long term "prognosis" but your situation is different. In time, you may be able to decide how to inform yourself or the info may be just given to you as you choose the way forward. Its a hard one. Our thoughts are with you. Take care, and as my father-in-law says.. "keep your sunny side up". It will help, but be gentle on yourself at the same time.
Creed_three (Lana & CJ)
Husband CJ aged 50 yrs (49 years at diagnosis and surgery)
PSA (2002) 2.1. PSA (Nov 2006) 3.5. 1 x (5%) core of 12 positive at biopsy. 11 cores negative. Open Radical Prostatectomy with nerve sparing, on Tuesday 17th April 2007 (Sydney, Australia).
Gleeson 3 + 4 = 7. Cancer confined. Margins all clear, including bladder neck and seminal vessicles. No incontinence (thankfully).
1st PSA 0.01 (June 07) 2nd PSA 0.02 (Oct 07) undetectable.
ED post-op recovery: Returned 8 months after surgery with Levitra 20mg as needed. Next PSA March 08.