I am at about
19 months post surgery (you can see many details in my signature). FWIW, I use injections plus generic Levitra or generic Viagra for erections, occasionally a pump.
My orgasm quality is definitely less than it was prior to surgery. Very subtle orgasms, most of the time. Some here have said that their orgasm quality actually improved, but that hasn't been the case with me yet. Some people have also indicated that the orgasm experience has changed from more of an explosion (prior to surgery) to a wave effect (after surgery)... I think this is true for me some of the time.
Sometimes, with all the effort it takes to achieve an erection and maintain it, and have a little sexual pleasure with it, I am not sure if what I end up with is an orgasm - sometimes it just seems like exasperation and exhaustion. But things are improving for me, gradually.
As for the decrease in quality, I think this is anywhere from 33% to 50% mental. Having an orgasm was obvious prior to surgery - we had physical proof of the crime! Not having the ejaculate now, I think we need to re-learn how our bodies and minds experience the orgasm, from the build up, to the orgasm itself and the aftermath. I think this takes time and patience, and practice - a lot of practice - both with a partner and while m*sturbating. I also try to enjoy the experience rather than looking for the outcome... which is what I guess many women do anyway, right? They don't always have orgasms (I am sure that doesn't apply to any of the womenfolk here, though!)
I am not happy that this is where I have ended up at this age (diagnosed at 40, surgery at 41)... but I try to make progress. Frankly, a lot of the progress involves adjusting to the new reality.
P.S.: it bugs me to no end that this forum doesn't allow the word M*asturbation. It's a natural freaking thing, for Pete's sake.
Prostate cancer diagnosed: May 15, 2006 (age 40)
Gleason score: pre-surgery 3+3=6; post-surgery 3+4=7
daVinci radical prostatectomy: July 25, 2006
size of tumor: approx 1.1 inches; negative margins from surgery
- number of pads/day at 3 months after surgery: 3 to 5
- number of pads/day at 4 months after surgery: 1 to 2
- number of pads/day at 6-18 months after surgery: 0 to 1
- 1st post-surgery PSA: 0 (Nov 2006); 2nd post-surgery PSA: 0 (Feb 2007)
- 3rd post-surgery PSA: 0 (May 2007); 4th post-surgery PSA: 0 (June 2007); 5th post-surgery PSA: 0
The search for timber: took Viagra/Cialis approx. every other day, ErecAid once a day, injections. Peyronie's diagnosed 7/5/07. Now on daily Cialis, L-arginine and pentoxyfylline. Peyronies has stabilized and significantly reversed.
- PGE1 batting average: .364 (4 for 11)
- Bimix batting average: .706 (12 for 17)
- Trimix batting average: .500 (1 for 2) Grand total 17 for 30 = .567
"Lost in the valley without my horses, no one can tell me what my remorse is..."
Post Edited (StrictlyInc) : 2/20/2008 2:28:22 PM (GMT-7)