I encourage you to take your time. You may decide to become the "Lance Armstrong" for the fight against Prostrate Cancer. News will travel very fast in a small town and that may move you to being more
open than I chose to be.
I took my time deciding how to share my fight:
I only told 12 of the 100s of people I know at Church. (My Prayer Group kept it confidential.)
I only told three people of the 100s I know at work. (My bosses kept it confidential.)
I didn't tell any of the 100s of customers I have that have known me for decades.
I didn't tell any neighbors nor most of my friends.
I told none of my 100s of former and current students (all children) at Church.
I told everyone in my family - especially my 3 male siblings as they are in a higher risk group than "father-to-son" with my diagnosis.
I waited until after the biopsy to tell most famly members.
I didn't see any reason to panic so many (I have a LARGE family.).
I also did not want a mob of visitors in the hospital. (Turning a well-meaning visitor away almost always hurts their feelings.)
I did immediately tell enough relatives to have the support I needed.
As for not sharing with the literally thousands of people I deal with each week, I just didn't feel like trying to explain the male reproductive system to everyone that asked.
I also didn't want to spend so much time dwelling on the disease as well-meaning people made inquiries to show real concern.
I was suddenly absent for a month and couldn't lift at work for quite some time.
So I did have to say I had some surgery. I just talked about
my past hernia repair as the cause of the surgery. This was to a certain extent true as Robotic DaVinci had to be abandoned for
open surgery due to adhesions from the previous surgeries.
Even still, dozens of times I had to say I didn't want to talk about
it to well-meaning questioners.
With strangers and in confidential situations, I do frequently share
. Two days ago, a lady shared with me of her father's PC. I was completely
open with her.
Also, my Bio-feedback Therapist has some of her newby PC patients contact me for my experiences and encouragement. My pastor has newby PC patients in our church contact me. In all cases, I also refer them to this site!
I am wearing a blue wristband. No one has asked me about
it but when they do, I will share knowledge without necessarily revealing my surgery. I will decide in each case.
While I personally feel my situtation calls me to discretion, I do admire and am grateful for those of you that are publicly championing this fight.CCedar
2 Years of PSA between 4 and 5.5 + Biopsy 23DEC06
Only 5 percent cancer in one of 8 samples. + Gleeson 3+3=6
OPEN R P 16FEB07 at age 54. 1+" tumor - touching inside edge of gland. + Confined. :)
Pad Free @ 14 weeks. Six Month PSA <.003 :) Nine month PSA <.008 :)
At 9 months, ED treated with Pump Exercises & 100mg Viagra Daily
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