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   Posted 3/6/2008 3:19 PM (GMT -6)   
I have just heard on TC's Caring Bridge site that my friend and companion on our journey has lost his mother.
I first met Tony here at Healing Well and we have become great friends by sharing our faith and our desire to beat the monster that controls our lives. He has always provided me with support, love, and most of all hope. He has given so much to all of us here. I just wanted to give something back to him at a very hard time in his life. Tonight I will join with friends to say a prayer for Tony. Please join with me and help to celebrate the life of his mother and the son she raised.
We love you Tony and you are not alone.
Your friend and brother in Christ,
Age: 54
PSA 43 7/2005
Biopsy 12/14 Gleason 7 & 9
Divinci 9/2005 - spread to bladder
HT - 10/2005 (Eligard every 6 months)
RT - 10/2005 (38 treatments)
PSA 0.12 to 1.9 2/2007
Bone Scan and CT 4/2007 Bone mets
Casodex 4/2007
Zometa infusions 4/2007
PSA 4.8 8/2007
PSA 6.34 12/2007
Radiation (15 treatments) started on bone mets 12/2007
PSA 6.72 1/2008
PSA 8.23 2/2008 - Starting prednisone for 30 days
PSA 14 2-29-2008 - start chemo on 3/6 
"I will persist without exception - I will find a way where there is no way"

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   Posted 3/6/2008 4:01 PM (GMT -6)   
Amen to that Walt. Tony and his family will be in our prayers, tough to lose a parent but I'll bet she was a great Mother and a great person. Hang in there Tony, Healingwell will be thinking about you and your family the next few days....jwb.
age: 62
PSA 4.57 - Positive DRE
Biopsy 3-19-07 - Gleason 4+4=8
Negative bone scan 3-20-07
DaVinci 4-24-07
Catheter out 5-01-07
post op pathology:
positive margin left side of prostate
left seminal vesicle involved (both removed)
No lymph node involvement
New gleason score 9
T3B....radiation consult on 5-9-07.
June 5, 2007 1st psa post surgery 0.62
June 27, 2007 second psa post surgery 0.59
June 27, 2007 started Lupron injection (24 mos)
September 6, 2007 scheduled to be marked and prepped for radiation therapy.
Start IMRT therapy on September 13, 2007.
September 26,2007 psa test .08
Finished IMRT therapy October 31!!!
January 17, 2008 psa test .05...

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   Posted 3/6/2008 4:27 PM (GMT -6)   
Dear Tony,

MaryLu and I are so sorry for the loss of your mother. Your great faith and support have helped so many here on the forum. Please be assured that you and Ruthie are in our prayers.

Age 73. Diagnosed 11/03/06. PSA 7.05. Stage T2C Gleason 3+3.
RRP 12/7/06. Nerves and nodes okay.
Catheter out on 12/13/06.  Dry on 12/14/06.
Pathological stage: T2C N0 MX. Gleason 3+4.
PSAs from  1/3/07 - 1/17/08 0.00. 
Next PSA test on 7/17/08
"Patience is essential, attitude is everything."

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   Posted 3/6/2008 4:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Sorry for your loss, Tony. As you know, it is heaven's gain!
Diagnosed 8/24/06
Gleason 6
PSA 3.32
stage T1C
age 48
da Vinci on 10/20/06
Last PSA Oct '07 = ZERO
Husband, Father, Son, Brother, Friend
"Never miss a good chance to listen."

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   Posted 3/6/2008 4:51 PM (GMT -6)   
Losing your mom is particularly hard - there's not a day goes by that I don't think of mine. You're in our prayers.

Susan & Don

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   Posted 3/6/2008 5:03 PM (GMT -6)   
Tony, so sorry to hear this. Take Care. KW
    PSA 5.7, Biopsy 3 of 12 positive (up to 75%) all on left side of prostate, Gleason 7
    RRP on Oct. 17, 2006 - Nerves on right side saved. All Lab's clear. 
    Cathiter in for 28 days due to complications in healing. Removed Nov. 9, 2006
    First Post op PSA on Dec. 11, 2006  Undetectable 0.00.
    ED workable and usable with Viagra.
    Feb. 20th, 2007 - Feb. 4th, 2008  Cystoscope, Two Collagen injections,Second Opinion Consultation for Incontinance at OU Medical Center, Bio-Feedback training, Chiropractic, Accupuncture  to try to resolve ongoing incontinance (4-6 pads a day)  All PSA's 0.00.
    Feb. 4th, 2008 - Appointment with Original Dr. to discuss options and recomendation for surgical fix for incontinance.
    Feb. 22nd, 2008 - Surgery to install the AMS AdVance Male Sling.

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   Posted 3/6/2008 7:09 PM (GMT -6)   

Tony and Family:

We are so very sorry to hear of your loss.  May the wonderful memories and good times soften this loss.  Our thoughts are with you and your family - you are such a valuable part of this forum.  Take care.  Dutch

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   Posted 3/6/2008 7:35 PM (GMT -6)   
Our thoughts an prayers are with you and your family, Tony.

Vickie / Paul

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   Posted 3/6/2008 7:56 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Tony:  I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.  Like so many others, my thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.  You've had a challenging year but you're a champ and you'll get through this too.  May God's blessings be with you and your family.

D.O.B - 8/9/52

PSA: First ever was 9.8 in late Oct. ‘06, two weeks later, 10.1

DRE: Negative

Biopsy results 11/22/06.  Both lobes involved.  Six out of eight cores positive - from 100 percent to 90, to 60, to 50, two 20s and two zeros.

Gleason 3+3 = 6

Da Vinci Robotic RP surgery, City of Hope, Jan 12, 2007

Post surgery pathology – Organ confined, Gleason still 6, margins clear.  Volume of tumor much less than biopsy suggested.  12 percent overall.

First post-surgery PSA -- Undetectable, 2/20/07

Second post-surgery PSA -- Undetectable, 9/11/07

Third post-surgery PSA -- Undetactable, 2/15/08

Doting Daughter
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   Posted 3/6/2008 9:01 PM (GMT -6)   
SO sorry to hear the sad news. What an amazing woman she must have been to have raised such an incredible son. Sad day.
Father's Information
DX July 15, 2007
Age 62 (now 63)
PSA 5.5
Original Gleason 3+4=7 
Post Surgery Gleason- 4+3=7
DaVinci Surgery Aug 31, 2007
Focally Positive Right Margin
One positive node
Bone Scan/CT Negative (Sept. 10, 2007)
T3a N1 M0
Oct. 17 PSA 0.07
Nov. 13 PSA 0.05
Casodex adm. Nov 07
Lupon beg. Dec 03, 2007 2 yr
Radiation soon to follow

FLHW(David E)
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   Posted 3/6/2008 9:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Tony, I pray for peace and comfort for you and your family.

A dear friend just sent me this earlier. I was going to post here when I saw Walt's post.
This is a beautiful song by a band "Switchfoot". You can hear it at the YouTube link.
I hope it helps you heal.



Twenty-four oceans, twenty-four skies,
Twenty-four failures in twenty-four tries.
Twenty-four finds me in twenty-fourth place,
With twenty-four dropouts at the end of the day.

Life is not what I thought it was
Twenty-four hours ago.
Still I'm singing Spirit take me up in arms
with You. And I'm not who I thought I was
Twenty-four hours ago
Still I'm singing Spirit take me up in arms with You.

Twenty-four reasons to admit that I'm wrong
With all my excuses still twenty-four strong.


But see I'm not copping out
Not copping out
Not copping out
When You're raising the dead in me

Oh, I am the second man
Oh, I am the second man now
Oh, I am the second man now

And You're raising these twenty-four voices
With twenty-four hearts
With all of my symphonies in twenty-four parts
But I want to be one today
Centered and true

I want to see miracles
To see the world change
I wrestled the angel
For more than a name
For more than a feeling
For more than a cause
Singing Spirit take me up in arms with You
You're raising the dead in me
Dx'd 2/18/05
PSA 219, bone mets, lymph node involvement
Gleason Score: 7
Current (1-28-08)
PSA: 36
Lupron, Nilandron

Personal Blog:

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   Posted 3/6/2008 9:47 PM (GMT -6)   
Tony. We are so sorry for the loss of your mother. The worst day of my life is the day I found my mother had left us in the middle of the night. Think back on the good times you had with her and know you will be re-united again.

age at dx 54 now 55
psa at dx 4.3
got the bad news 1/29/07
open surgery Duke Medical Center 5-29-07
never more than 2 pads
wear one for insurance now
ED still a problem
last PSA undetectable

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   Posted 3/6/2008 10:52 PM (GMT -6)   

May god bless your mother, I am sure she was a wonderful lady becasue she raised a great son who extends his caring to us all on this board. You are in my prayers.

Age 49, PSA 6.22 on 9-26-06
Biopsy 11-01-06, 2 of 13 cores 10% cancer, 2 other cores abnormal Up-dated 20% prostate cancerous
Gleason score 3+3=6 After Pathology report 4+3=7 a couple agressive Grade 5 cells found
Da Vinci surgery 01-09-07 UW Madison
Pathology Report- cancer 100 % capsual contained 1-18-07
Catheter removed 1-18-07 suffered bladder spasms Catheter reattached 1-18-07 Catheter removed 2nd time 1-24-07
1st & 2nd Post PSA Blood Test .1 and less - Undetectable
3nd Post PSA Blood Test 01-17-07 .3-Next action awaits me.
Next PSA Scheduled and meeting with Radiologist set for 3-27-08
Incontenence-Pad free since end of May 07 4 1/2 months post surgery 
ED back to 95% prior to surgery - no medication required.

Tim G
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   Posted 3/6/2008 11:29 PM (GMT -6)   
I am sorry to hear this sad, sad news and will remember Tony and his family in my prayers. 
Age 59  PSA velocity quadrupled in 1 yr (0.6 to 2.6) 
1 of 12 biopsies positive (5%) 
Open surgery June 2006 
Cancer confined to one small area Gleason 5 
PSA's undetectable

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   Posted 3/7/2008 4:51 AM (GMT -6)   
I am so sorry to hear of your mother's passing, Tony. My deepest sympathy and prayers go out to you and your family.

Diagnosed: March 25, 2007. Age 49
Biopsy: Gleason 6. Five of twelve samples positive with <5% each. No perineural invasion seen.
Surgery: May 21, 2007
Post-op Pathology: Upgraded to Gleason 7 (3+4), negative margins, negative capsular penetration, negative seminal vesicles, lymph nodes left intact, multifocal perinural invasion, 15% of prosate involving cancer in both lobes. T2c
Continence: Out of pads at five weeks. Seven months post-op I'm fully continent.
Erections: Yes! With the assistance of Cialis.
Post Surgery PSA: Three tests, all <0.1
Family history: Great-great grandfather died from PC. My Father had his prostate removed at age 67 in 1997 and has had an undetectable PSA ever since. I was diagnosed at a much earlier age and had a more agressive cancer than my father. Go figure.

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   Posted 3/7/2008 6:38 AM (GMT -6)   


You too are one of my heros on this forum.

You have my sympathies and prayers.  I am sure your mother is in a better place.

52 Year Old DBA by profession; amateur pianist by passion.
June 2006:  PSA 4.6.  DRE prostate enlarged.  
Aug  2006:  Second opinion confirms first.  Biopsy suggested.
Sep  2006:  Biopsy results positive one lobe.  Gleason 3+3.
Nov  2006:  RPA performed at Fletcher Allen in Burlington VT.
Nov  2006:  Pathology report: Stage T3a and Gleason 3+4.
Dec  2006:  PSA 0.1
Feb, May  2007:  PSA 0.0 (under 0.1)
Aug, Nov  2007:  PSA 0.1
Trying my hand at blogging.

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   Posted 3/7/2008 7:57 AM (GMT -6)   
My condolences to Tony and his family...

Prostate cancer diagnosed: May 15, 2006 (age 40)
Gleason score: pre-surgery 3+3=6; post-surgery 3+4=7
daVinci radical prostatectomy: July 25, 2006
size of tumor: approx 1.1 inches; negative margins from surgery

- number of pads/day at 3 months after surgery: 3 to 5
- number of pads/day at 4 months after surgery: 1 to 2
- number of pads/day at 6-18 months after surgery: 0 to 1

- 1st post-surgery PSA: 0 (Nov 2006); 2nd post-surgery PSA: 0 (Feb 2007)
- 3rd post-surgery PSA: 0 (May 2007); 4th post-surgery PSA: 0 (June 2007); 5th post-surgery PSA: 0

The search for timber: took Viagra/Cialis approx. every other day, ErecAid once a day, injections. Peyronie's diagnosed 7/5/07. Now on daily Cialis, L-arginine and pentoxyfylline. Peyronies has stabilized and significantly reversed.

- PGE1 batting average: .364 (4 for 11)
- Bimix batting average: .706 (12 for 17)
- Trimix batting average: .500 (1 for 2) Grand total 17 for 30 = .567

"Lost in the valley without my horses, no one can tell me what my remorse is..."

Tony Crispino
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   Posted 3/7/2008 10:42 AM (GMT -6)   

It's been surreal that last 24 hours.  My family thanks you all, and those who posted at my blog as well.  Today is my first day to begin without mom, but yet I feel her as though nothing has changed.  It was hard to walk through her house without tears.  But they were tears of joy and happiness.  I came here for support on my journey with cancer, and ended up with friends for the ages.  I am emotional enough on Lupron, but you people have made me feel comfort at the most difficult time.  I write my most sincerest thanks to you all.  As a Christian I want you to all know I am grateful for the amazing grace of the Lord, and the acceptance that my mom is finally at peace.  It is a beautiful morning here in California.  God's gift of recreation is ever present.  And I have a new guardian to begin this day with.  This guardian had me walk to a wall in my mom's house with this framed writing on it.  I want to share it with you:

To Those I love
When I'm gone, just release me let me go
So that I can move into my afterglow
You musn't tie me down with tears
Let's be happy we had so many years
I gave you my love, You can only guess how much you gave me in happiness
I thank you for the love each of you have shown
But now it's time I travelled alone
So grieve for me a while, if grieve you must
Then let your grief be comforted with trust
It's only for a while that we must part
so Bless the memories in your heart
And then, when you come this way alone
I'll greet you with a smile and a welcome home
From the bottom of my heart, I thank you beautiful people.  As Bluebird would say:  Hugs to you all.  Big ones.  God Bless you. 
Your friend,

Age 45 (44 when Dx)
Pre-op PSA was 19.8
Surgery on Feb 16, 2007
Post-Op Pathology: Gleason 4+3=7, positive margins, Stage pT3b (Stage III)
HT began in May, '07 with Lupron and Casodex 50mg
IMRT radiation for 38 Treatments ending August 3, '07
Current PSA (1/08): <0.1
I will continue HT until May '09. 
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   Posted 3/7/2008 11:07 AM (GMT -6)   
Our condolences. May God bless your mom, who has raised an inspiration like you.Take care.You are in our thoughts and prayers.

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   Posted 3/7/2008 12:38 PM (GMT -6)   
Since both Tony and Walt are two of my heros, I decided to write a little about them here.
52 Year Old DBA by profession; amateur pianist by passion.
June 2006:  PSA 4.6.  DRE prostate enlarged.  
Aug  2006:  Second opinion confirms first.  Biopsy suggested.
Sep  2006:  Biopsy results positive one lobe.  Gleason 3+3.
Nov  2006:  RPA performed at Fletcher Allen in Burlington VT.
Nov  2006:  Pathology report: Stage T3a and Gleason 3+4.
Dec  2006:  PSA 0.1
Feb, May  2007:  PSA 0.0 (under 0.1)
Aug, Nov  2007:  PSA 0.1
Trying my hand at blogging.

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   Posted 3/7/2008 4:51 PM (GMT -6)   
Dear Tony, Our thoughts and prayers are with you. What a wonderful poem - it is just beautiful. Lana & CJ
Creed_three (Lana & CJ)
Husband CJ aged 50 yrs (49 years at diagnosis and surgery)
PSA (2002) 2.1.  PSA (2006) 3.5.  1 x (5%) core of 12 positive at biopsy. 11 cores negative. Open Radical Prostatectomy with nerve sparing, on Tuesday 17th April 2007 (Sydney, Australia).
Gleeson 3 + 4 = 7.  Cancer confined. 1st PSA 0.01 (June 07) 2nd PSA 0.02 (Oct 07) undetectable. Next PSA March 08.

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   Posted 3/7/2008 9:47 PM (GMT -6)   


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Dear Tony & Ruth,

We are keeping you tucked close as you travel a really rough stretch in your path.  I know you feel our warmth.   Our thoughts and prayers surround you.  May it help to know how many people share your sorrow and stand with you in your time of need.  The strongest arms are holding your mom and there will be only sunshine.  She will be with you every step you take. 

God Bless You and May Beautiful Memories give you strength at this difficult time.


And yes dear friend ~

this message is filled with special ~

bluebird HUGS and Warm Thoughts

                             “Lee, Buddy, & Murphy”

Cedar Chopper
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   Posted 3/8/2008 6:25 AM (GMT -6)   

Words cannot be enough as you and your family both grieve and celebrate your mother's life.  Your friends are always here for you.

I appreciate the photograph of you playing Flaminco guitar on your site.
I've been listening to Sting play Elizabethian lute music all week.
So much history and culture communicated in each dissonate harmony in these styles.

Mothers are the vessels by which we are "baptized" into the world -
       - enveloped in the histories of our families and their culture & love.
In awe, we pick up the work of such departed family member/saints
       - and carry on, together.
God bless your mother's family, all-ways.


We are an Easter People!

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   Posted 3/8/2008 4:05 PM (GMT -6)   
i have tears in my eyes. but she passed knowing she had imparted her strength to you, and that i'm sure gave her peace. i wish you and your family the best in dealing with your loss.
42 yo. now
5/07 PSA 4.65 at routine physical
6/07 biopsy positive for cancer...Gleason 3+4...diagnosed at 41 y.o.
6/07-9/07 manic research and interviews with physicians across the country in search of the "right" decision.  I went to Mass General in Boston, Loma Linda, University of Chicago and Northwestern.
9/17/07 - Radical Retropubic Prostatectomy Surgery at Northwestern Memorial in Chicago by Dr. William Catalona.  Thankful the father of the PSA test was right here in Chicago.
Post op pathology was Gleason 3+4 with negative margins, no seminal vesicale involvement, no lymphatic or vascular invasion, bladder and urethral free and tumor volume was 5% of 27.3g.  
9/27/07 - Catheter removal...let the games begin...
12/07 - Threw out the pads.  I only had to use 1 pad per day for protection against minor drips. 
I started Trimix 8 weeks after surgery with success.
I hope someday I won't need injections, but I hope more that my PSA stays at 0 forever.

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   Posted 3/9/2008 12:24 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi Tony & Ruthie,

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. You have been such a special friend and have touched the lives of so many people with your helping hand. Tony your mom would be so very proud of the person you are. I hope you can focus on the happy times you had with her. She is in a better place now.



Rick & Diana
Age 68/ 67@ Dx
6-30-06  PSA 2.54
1-22-07  PSA 4.98
1-26-07  PSA 5.09
Diag: 2-14-07 Gleason 8 Stage T1c PSA 5.09
Bone Scan 3-1-07 Clear
3-6-07 Triple Spinal Fusion (due to old back injury)
Radical retropubic surgery 4-2-07  Post surgery Gleason 9 Stage T3a Positive margins
4-29-07 PSA 0.02
6-9-07   PSA 0.02
7-6-07   PSA 0.03
8-1-07   CT Scan & Chest X-Ray   Clean
 9-26-2007 PSA 0.07
11/1/07 PSA 0.1
11/30/07 PSA 0.12
01/31/2008 PSA 0.3

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