Definitely move on to women's pads. Just shopped today with my wife. She very surreptitiously walked me through the labrynth of types, sizes, absorbancies, etc. It is mind boggling. BUT SO MUCH MORE COMFORTABLE!!!! I was down to a few drops a day...mostly late in the day and the bulk of the male pad was more than I needed. One day after I mentioned it, she handed me one of hers and said to try it. I had forgotten what it was like to not have all that bulk and pressure down there. yes, they are a bit narrow and your penis can shift to one side if you aren't careful, but the ends of women's pads are wider, so just position it accordingly and you will be fine. I don't even feel like I'm wearing anything now. Who knows how long this stage may last, but I'm grateful for even the smallest progress in this.
Told my wife, this was true marriage when she's got me wearing her pads...whodathunk it would come to this?