Yes. They are normal feelings. But you can cope with them. I know it's hard for you but you are not losing your father tomorrow, and likely not at all. We here have a very good peace of advice. Learn about
this disease. Knowledge will slow the fear. Eagle10, I do know what it's like to not be able to be near your father at a time like this. A similar thing happened to me. Anger, sadness, worry, loss of sleep, dang these are normal feelings, and I had them. There are other feelings that make these ones pale by comparison. For example, Love, Faith, Hope, Caring, knowing, helping, believing, understanding, just to name a few. You can be the leader of the family research team, or you can be the leader of the watch out for little sister team, or many other roles you can take on. Try to get some rest because your dad can use a fresh you. Try to replace anger and worry with knowledge. Start by learning the stages, and Gleason system, and the PSA. Get those in your signature, then let us ask you the questions if you like. Remember we share our information so that those who live with this experience can help each other. I just bumped a thread called "Videos". check on them and ask your dad what he knows. Ask you dad if he would share the technical information with you. Here are some questions:
1> What is your PSA? (should be between 0 to 4 for normal, mine was 19.8)
2> Why did you get tested?
3> What is your Gleason Score? (should be between 2 and 10, my Gleason Score was a 7)
4> What are you planning to do next? (Common treatments are Radiation, Surgery, and Hormone Therapy)
Your dad's age will also help us help you. When you have gathered the information there are some more things to learn, but we can help. So if you can post what you have learned and we can show you how to get to the next step. Again, Bless you, Eagle10.
Age 45 (44 when Dx)
Pre-op PSA was 19.8
Surgery on Feb 16, 2007
Post-Op Pathology: Gleason 4+3=7, positive margins, Stage pT3b (Stage III)
HT began in May, '07 with Lupron and Casodex 50mg
IMRT radiation for 38 Treatments ending August 3, '07
Current PSA (1/08): <0.1
I will continue HT until May '09.
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