Krisp, hang in there buddy. It is a shock for everyone. Even now, it seems surreal that I am a cancer patient, but one learns to deal with it and look for the good things that happen.
Some feedback to some of your questions and concerns.....
Typically there is at least a 6 week waiting period from biopsy to surgery, so you have some time.
You certainly do NOT have to use the surgeon that your urologist recommended. A boyhood friend of mine was diagnosed about 6 weeks before I was. His local docs would not do nerve-sparing surgery, so he went to Johns Hopkins...three states away from his home...and had his surgery done there.
In my case, my urologist and his partners are all surgeons with a lot of experience, so I opted to have my urologist perform the surgery. He is in DFW also, so if you need his name, contact me at email@example.com. I opted for open surgery.
Good luck to you in your journey to recovery.
Prostate removal November 2007
Gleason score 9, PSA 14
Biopsy result - 9 of 12 sticks showed cancer
Despite high Gleason score, cancer was confined to the prostate
Unrelated surgery January 2008 delayed incontinence recovery, which is now showing good signs of improvement (1 to 2 pads a day)
Began using Osbon Erec-Aid Esteem manual pump for therapy mid-February 2008
Begain using Viagra 3 times a week December 2007 to stimulate blood flow