I respect the fact that every situation is unique, but I will offer my perspective for what little it might be worth....lol.
I had surgery a month to the day before you did...am still incontinent although making GREAT progress the past few weeks...started at 12 pads a day, now down to about 1/3 of a pad a day.
I had a hernia to deal with that set me back some...a second surgery 8 weeks after RP surgery....but the approach that we have taken is the following:
1. Start feeling like a human again (get past my second surgery).
2. Get the incontinence under control
3. Use Viagra and the pump for therapy once the incontinence got much better, as it has the past 3 or 4 weeks.
4. Start trying bimix injections, with the understanding that it might take several tries to find the right mix.
We have not tried sex and will not until I start the injections, which is probably one to two months out.....unless of course I suddenly start having erections without injections.
For us, this slower approach seems to be working fine emotionally and physically....although I realize that it might not for others. We want to take our time, be patient, and have successes along the way to what will hopefully one day be a full ED recovery.....and minimize frustrations for both of us.
If that means that we don't have intercourse again until May or June, no problem. We are thankful to be alive and are looking forward to the first time since surgery, whenever that turns out to be.
Hang in there and good luck to you!!!