James, my perspective is very similar to yours.
My priorities were and remain to beat the cancer itself, regain continence (really, really close to that one now) and then beat ED.
The only slight difference, in my case, is that I am thrilled that I might be able to use injections for therapy and to achieve very usable erections. I discussed injections with my wife a week or so ago and she was very happy to learn about them.
While I am not looking forward to the act of injecting myself, the fact that it might allow my wife and I to have sex is exciting to both of us, as we were unaware of that option until recently.
My hope is that a combination of regular pumping, Viagra, injections and time will result one day in ED recovery, at least to the point that I would just need Viagra....but time will tell that story.
Nerve-sparing, open prostate surgery November 13, 2007
Gleason score 9, PSA 14
Biopsy result - 9 of 12 sticks showed cancer
Despite high Gleason score, cancer was confined to the prostate
Possible post-surgery radiation therapy...decision likely in late April 2008, depending upon PSA at that time
Unrelated surgery January 2008 delayed incontinence recovery, which is now showing good signs of improvement (fraction of a pad a day as of March 2008)
Began using Viagra 3 times a week December 2007 to stimulate blood flow
Began using Osbon Erec-Aid Esteem manual pump for therapy mid-February 2008
Will probably begin using bimix injections in addition to Viagra and pump in May 2008