I am a lot like your dad and do not discuss my condition much with my daughter. As a matter of fact I have revealed more on this web site than I ever have to my family. My reasoning was, what good would it do for her to hear negative reports on my health. I want her to concentrate on raising my grandchildren. She recently approached me and told me that in some ways I was causing her more concern than if I were more revealing about
I am now trying to be more forthcoming as to my health. In the process I found it was not only that I did not want her worrying, I discovered that I do not like discussing certain things, as I am trying not to think about
them, as much as I can. This disease will consume a individual if you allow it, therefore a lot of us deal with situations that demand we get some type of treatment or medication, and then try our best to get on with our lives.
I can only suggest that you approach him and inform him that his lack of communication is really causing you a great deal of distress, due to the lack of knowledge. I think he will understand. Most of us find the hardest times during this journey is when WE are in the dark or our lack of knowlege, such as test results we are waiting on or the time between test, etc. Explain to him it is the same for you, not knowing is worse than being allowed to help him should he receive news that is not so good. I have found that I do get a lot of comfort when my daughter calls just to see how I am handling negative situations.
Like all situations the more you and he communicate the better it will get. Just keep in mind, he most likely would rather not think about
this no more than he has to. More than anything, try to spend time with him and keep him distracted and God forbid if something does happen to him you will have no regrets.
Prostate Cancer, Removed by Da Vincie Robotic
in Aug. 2006
Poorly Differentiated Adenocarcinoma involving Left and Right Lobes involving 80% of the Specimens
Pathologic Stage T2C No Mx
Age at Diag. 51
1 year PSA .02
DES Stent Placement on 12/31/07