You women, and my wife, are all incredible. I can think of several reasons which might drive you, but, whatever the reason, you are much stronger than many of us. I have said many times that I am glad that I'm the one who's sick and not my wife because, (1) I don't want her to be sick, but, honestly, (2) I wouldn't want to be the one left alone and have to deal with all that entails. I know I wouldn't be able to handle it.
As far as unpleasant or rude practitioners, I don't know the system in Canada, but, I've "fired" a number of doctors with whom I didn't get along and found many others who are caring and responsive to my questions and concerns. What we're going through is stressful enough, there's no reason to to have the professionals on whom we depend add to the stress.
I wish I knew of a compendium of stories about people who were given only a short time to live and lived, and are still living, many years later. It seems that every time I tell my story to someone new, they tell me about someone they know who's living many years longer than they were lead to believe by their doctors. The first one my wife and I read about is Michael Milken, famous for being a (very wealthy) junk bond dealer who gained some notoriety during the junk bond fiasco. I don't remember the exact details, but he was diagnosed with advanced PCa and was told he had less than a year. He changed his diet and his lifestyle, and as far as I know, he's still going strong some 12 or 14 years later. Check out the books by, and about, him.
One final point. I've been depressed for most of my adult life. I'd always refused meds for it because "I'm very intelligent and can get over it myself". Hogwash!! I finally gave in after a particularly serious bout of depression during which I had some very terrible thoughts. It took many trials and errors to find the right anti-depressant for me and I was put on a low dose of Effexor and that's all it took - until I was diagnosed with PCa. My dose has been increased twice during the three years of my battle and I'm in a really good place vis-a-vis my situation. I truly believe that anti-depressants should be among the arsenal of drugs used to fight any life threatening disease for those who who can't find comfort in some other way. Usual disclaimer - I'm not a medical professional, just speaking from personal experience.
I wish you all, and, me too, the best.
1/2005 Dx PSA 26.5 Gleason 7 (4+3) @Age 61
1/2005 Start Casodex and Zoladex
PSA drops to <0.01
7/2005-8/2005 5 weeks of IMRT and then HDR brachy
1/2007 Rad Oncologist orders CT scan of pelvis
because of complaints of pain in both thighs
MRI confirms pain not caused by cancer BUT
1/2007 CT scan of pelvis picks up a nodule at bottom of left lung
5/2007 CT scan of lungs shows 1/2007 nodule has grown and
there are numerous nodules on both lungs.
6/2007 Thoracic surgeon removes wedge of left lung for biopsy
6/2007 Path report says 95% chance of metastatic PCa, but she's
never seen cells like this before.
8/2007 2nd opinion at M.D. Anderson in Houston.
They confirm: mutated PCa, very rare, but seen there 2 or
3 times. Recommendation: have CT scans every 6 weeks
and watch for change. At that point start chemo and will
survive for 22 - 24 months thereafter.
PSA still undetectable, but get Lupron shot to bring T down from 27
2/2008 Trip to Houston – PSA now 0.5 and nodules larger. Lupron shot.