I had my surgery on Feb 27, 2008. Just like your husband, I was dry at night or while sitting as soon as I stand up it's like an open faucet. I too had the burning issue and the urge to go all the times because of the constant urine in the penis. The catheter and constant leaking caused major irritation at the head of the penis and the burning sensation. In my case, the burning sensation gradually subsides with the healing of the penis and getting used to the condition.
For the first 6 weeks there was little improvement in the leakage, I just started to see noticible improvement last week. So hang in there, continence recovering is a long process.
Age: 48 (2008)
DRE normal, PSA 3.1
08/28/07: Diagnosed cancer, T1c, Gleason 3+3=6
02/27/08: Laparoscopic Rad. prostectomy @ Anaheim Kaiser, 4 hrs.
Both nerve bundles spared
Pathology Report: Tumor confined w/in prostate
T2c, Gleason is 3+3=6
Surgical margin: Focally involved by tumor in right apex
03/10/08: Catheter removed. Drip, drip, drip, drip...
04/07/08: 1st PSA <.01 :)
Dripping starts to slow down :)
ED: Started Levitra, no response yet.