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   Posted 4/15/2008 9:52 AM (GMT -6)   
All of my friends and family are giving me as much support as I need but I'm having a hard time talking to them because I get so emotional.  I know everyone is different but does there come a time when you can discuss your cancer without turning into a blubbering water hose.
I was diagnosed one week ago today.
 54 y.o.
 Diagnosed 4/10/08
 DRE Normal
 Biopsy- 12 cores, 4 positive highest 4+4=8
 Bone scan, CT scan, Chest X-Ray 4-14 results in 2 days I'll post them when I receive them.

Tony Crispino
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   Posted 4/15/2008 10:03 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi David,
The key to securing your emotions is knowledge. Knowing what you can do in the future is much better than knowing what's been done. Hang in there and stay positive. You are not alone here at HW. It might feel that way at times, but that's why I stayed here and also became a part of the processes. I week is a very short period in prostate cancer. In the months, and years, ahead you will adjust quite a bit. This can and will likely be a life changing experience. That is not necessarily a bad thing. In fact quite the opposite, it was good for me. You have my prayer for your cancer to be healed.


Age 45 (44 when Dx)
Pre-op PSA was 19.8
Surgery on Feb 16, 2007
Post-Op Pathology: Gleason 4+3=7, positive margins, Stage pT3b (Stage III)
HT began in May, '07 with Lupron and Casodex 50mg
IMRT radiation for 38 Treatments ending August 3, '07
Current PSA (1/08): <0.1
I will continue HT until May '09. 
Years in Remission (3/23/07): 1
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Tim G
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   Posted 4/15/2008 10:12 AM (GMT -6)   

You were diagnosed only a week ago with a life-threatening cancer. Were you hoping to get over your emotional response to this in a weekend? 

My emotions were all over the map for a long time after I was told I had prostate cancer.  They can still be strong two years later. 

It is natural and human to need and want support from family, friends, and others who are going thru the same thing.

You've got a good group of supportive men and women here who are at various stages on their own prostate cancer journey.  We are here to help.

Be emotional!  It shows that you are human and need what we all need--others to walk beside us, hand-in-hand, heart-to-heart!

Take care and hang in there...Tim

Age 59  PSA velocity quadrupled in 1 yr (0.6 to 2.5) 
DRE neg  1 of 12 biopsies positive (5%) 
Open surgery June 2006 
Cancer confined to one small area of prostate
Gleason 5  PSA's undetectable

Johnny Canuck
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   Posted 4/15/2008 10:14 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi David,
Two comments...the first to say that by coming to this forum, and speaking frankly to those who understand your distress, you've taken the initial step in getting a handle on the time ahead. Secondly, I'll repeat what my doctor said to me..."If you're going to get cancer, this is the one to get." Like TC said, stay positive!

Let your family help, visit here, don't do it alone. Things are better than they seem right now. Thanks for sharing.
Age: 54
Gleason Score: 3+3=6
PSA: 3.33
Biopsy:7/8 Positive
Stage: "Bulky" T1c
Prostate Size: 27cc
Diagnosed: December 05, 2007
Brachytherapy: on February 26, 2008
  68 seeds, (Iodine 125). 

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   Posted 4/15/2008 10:27 AM (GMT -6)   
 Once you get over the initial shock which could take awhile, you will start researching and finding out the best choice for you. My husband is still struggling and so am I. But the best thing is to spend some time  and finding out everything you can. Every single time I had the simplest question, I would post. And within no time, I had answers and people who cared. I'm still asking questions everyday and the wonderful people on here are watching and waiting to help. Get your family involved and have them help you get answers. My husband doesn't get on the forum but I do and I never feel alone. We are not that far into the process but so many are and are a valuable asset.
We will all help you
Age 51 Kent
January 08 PSA 5.2 round of antibiotics went to 4.3
February 08 anpther round of antibiotics went to 4.2
March 17,08 had biopsy, 2 days later told cancer was on
one entire side of prostate.
Gleason 3+3
Doctor thinks its best to get the whole prostate with Perineal  Prostatectomy.
Surgery scheduled for this Thursday April 10th.
Cindy (the wife!!)
Surgery preformed and doing great. Only took 1 1/2 hours. Will know in two weeks about pathology report. Surgeon feels he he got all cancer and confined to prostate. Both nerves were spared.
Home 4-11

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   Posted 4/15/2008 11:04 AM (GMT -6)   
It's perfectly normal to have an emotional reaction to hearing the words, "You've got cancer." Eventually you'll stop "blubbering" and start getting busy doing research. For patient experiences and opinions, there's no shortage here on this forum. However, for sound professional advice, you'll need a trustworthy team of doctors. When selecting a doctor, a long history of experience is extremely important. Best wishes!
SYMPTOMS: PSA Velocity=2.6 to 4.7 over 12 month period; DRE=Normal

PRE-OP STAGING: Biopsy=1 in 12 cores positive; Gleason 3+4=7; T1c; Bone scan=clear; CT scan=clear; da Vinci robotic LRP Jan2007 (@ age 58)

POST-OP PATHOLOGY: Adenocarcinoma; Gleason 3+3=6; T2c; Extra Prostatic Extension=Clear; Seminal Vesicles=Clear; Margins=Clear; Post-op PSA's (to date)=undetectable

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   Posted 4/15/2008 12:46 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey David,

You've come to the right place. We all blubbered and we all got over it in better shape emotionally than before. That's because we found a place for support and information.

We can all get well together...

Age 73. Diagnosed 11/03/06. PSA 7.05. Stage T2C Gleason 3+3.
RRP 12/7/06. Nerves and nodes okay.
Catheter out on 12/13/06.  Dry on 12/14/06.
Pathological stage: T2C N0 MX. Gleason 3+4.
PSAs from  1/3/07 - 1/17/08 0.00. 
Next PSA test on 7/17/08
"Patience is essential, attitude is everything."

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   Posted 4/15/2008 1:54 PM (GMT -6)   
Join the club. Sometimes it sucks to be normal!  What you are feeling is totally normal and completely understandable.  The feelings will grow less intense as time goes by, but don't be afraid to use all tools at your disposal. Family, friends and this place are good. I have long said that the minute a doctor tells a person they have cancer they should also give them the card of a competent therapist. Don't be afraid to use this tool as well.  You can't go it alone and sometimes it's easier to sort out feelings with a professional instead of family and friends.  Also, this diagnosis could be triggering feelings you aren't even aware you have!  I am a huge fan of therapists - yes I live in New york, but really, they are very helpful. I had a therapist already and having gone through a year of losing my own father to PCa then getting it myself, it was enormously helpful. Also, remember the line "Better living through Chemistry"?  Anti-depressants can help in the short term if you find yourself overwhelmed by all this. It removes some of the edge of the emotions so that you can deal with them. Again, just another tool, not a life sentence.  Take this time to take really good care of yourself as well. Do things for you.
Take care
47 at Diagnosis.
Father died of Pca 4/07 at 86.
1/06 PSA 3.15
1/07 PSA 4.6      (Biopsy 3/07 just suspicious)
10/07 PSA 5.06   (Biopsy 11/07  1 of 12 with 8% involvment) (1mm)
Da Vinci surgery Jan 5, '08 at Mt. Sinai Hosp. NYC
Saved both nerve bundles.
Path Report:  Stage T2cNxMx
-Gleason (3+3)6
-totally contained to prostate,
-10% involvement in L & R Mid lobes
PSA 0 at six weeks
Pad free on March 14 - (10 weeks.)
ED - Take 100mg viagra every night.
Totally usable erections at 10 weeks.

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   Posted 4/15/2008 2:45 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi David,

I am still in a fog with my emotions.  I cant believe this is me. I am the one that is supposed to takiing care of everyone else.  Did I think I was Superman ??

I will tell you this.  After my surgery as I am getting stronger and returning to a more normal life style where I can better chase the Blue's away. Now with spring arriving in the Midwest fishing cannot be far behind.

Remember David you are a fighter, prepare yourself for battle by getting informed, orginize your plan, put your team together and when your ready take action and beat this thing.

God Bless




Diagnosed 01-08-08 @ 53 years old 
DRE normal - High PSA for 5 or more years
2004 Biospy negative - 2008 Biopsy positive (01-08-08)
10 cores, 1 positive and at 1% of that one core
Current PSA 6 - Bone and Ct scans negative
clinicalg Staged at T1C - Gleason 3+3 = 6
Robotic Da Vinci performed March 27th, 2008
University of Chicago,5 hour surgery , 3 hour recovery
Unexpected Cardiac issues appear and disappear?
Hospital stay 30 hours - Catheter out in 7 days  normaly expected leakage - Erectile funtion back on line 9 days 
Post Pathology T2C, Gleason 7, 10 % of both portions of prostate, Seminal vessels clear, fat tissue clear,Tumor on bottom of prostate, 1 positve margin  going to meet with oncologist to discuss treatment options if any at this time.

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   Posted 4/15/2008 3:26 PM (GMT -6)   
David, the thing that has really helped me and my family is we started going to a support group offered by the hospital where I had my surgery and radiation. It has given us some really good tools to use daily in order to deal with this disease.
Good luck and give yourself time.
Age 44
PSA 4.8
Gleason 3+3=6
Biopsy - 3 of 12 (2@20% / 1@80%
Da Vinci 7/31/07 @ Duke
2.5 hr. surgery, released from Duke within 14 hrs.
Saved both nerve bundles. 
Foley out 8/10/07
Positive Pathology Report 
Near left side nerve bundle
New Gleason 7
Oncology visit in the near future for radiation
Back to work 3 weeks following surgery - Sales
9/13/07 - 1 Post PSA Undetectable less than 0.1 
9/17/07 - Pad Free! 
10/11/07 - ED, Trimix injection .2cc Tooo much but it worked. Now on .05cc, 3 times a week
No luck with viagra or pump. 
11/19/07 - 5 mth. PSA 0.1 (Ouch)
02/11/08 - Scheduled for CT Scan and MRI
2/27/08 - Started IMRT Radiation treatments
(6 weeks, 5 days a week)  
4/14/08 - Radiation complete with "NO" side effects.
6/17/08 - 1st Post Radiation PSA scheduled

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   Posted 4/15/2008 6:38 PM (GMT -6)   


Think this can be a normal response, but soon you will have all your stats and then you will be busy researcing your treatment options and you won't have time for the blubbering.  Then comes the best part - your treatment is over, you are a cancer survivor and you can help some new guy get thru the initial shock by telling him your story.  Hang in there and keep the family and friends close.


Diagnosed Feb 2001  (Age 65)  Currently 72
PSA 4.8      Gleason 3+3=6      Stage   T2b
Completed Proton Therapy @ Loma Linda - Aug 2001 - No side effects.  My journey is at:
7yr PSA - 0.2
Our responsibility now is to educate men about Pca, PSA and the importance of early detection. 

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   Posted 4/15/2008 6:40 PM (GMT -6)   
What you are feeling is perfectly normal and would have been the experience of all here on the forum. First it's shock..............who, me? Cancer? Things like that happen to other people, not me. Sadness next. the , oh woe is life is over and so much to do. Anger usually follows-----Bloody thing. It's not fair. Again, why me......I'm a pretty good person. The secret to getting past all this is family support, good doctors, a local support group and the invaluable help and knowledge of those here on HealingWell. Just as important in dealing with this disease and levelling out your emotional journey is knowledge of what it is, what it does and the various treatments available. Others experiences both here and at have immense value in easing your mind. I wish you well.
Bill :-)
1/05 PSA----2.9 3/06-----3.2 3/07-------4.1 5/07------3.9 All negative DREs
Aged 59 when diagnosed
Biopsy 6/07----4 of 10 cores positive for Adenocarcinoma-------bummer!
Core 1 <5%, core 2----50%, core 3----60%, core 4----50%
Biopsy Pathologist's comment:
Gleason 4+3=7 (80% grade 4) Stage T2c
Neither extracapsular nor perineural invasion is identified
CT scan and Bone scan show no evidence of metastases
Da Vinci RP Aug 10th 2007
Post-op pathology:
Positive for perineural invasion and 1 small focal extension
Negative at surgical margins, negative node and negative vesicle involvement
Some 4+4=8 identified ........upgraded to Gleason 8
PSA Oct 07 <0.1 undetectable
PSA Jan 08 <0.1 undetectable

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   Posted 4/15/2008 6:59 PM (GMT -6)   
Like so many, this forum was a main source of information and advice. And I'd agree, the post diagnosis period is so emotionally rough. Everything is going fine and then Boom! suddenly you've got cancer. All the above advice is right on target. If you read through the many back posts you will find useful information from men who have your characteristics. The specificity of the histories makes this a very valuable site. But right up there also is that you can ask any question, no matter how nitty-gritty and get a good answer or reference. This is helpful if you don't know anyone who has gone through this. I only knew one person, so this site was a comfort to me. Great folks here. Give yourself (and any loved one too) some license to have emotional downs. More information will help you. Keep everyone posted. We all learn from each other.
Age 59
PSA ; PSA 9/07=3.4; '06=3.2 DRE Negative; '05=2.4; '04=1.7
Biopsy 11/07 =  Stage T1c, 12 cores, 2 positive
Gleason score= 3+3=6
DaVinci Robotic RP surgery: 2/14/08
Path report: Gleason= 3+4=7; Stage T2c

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   Posted 4/15/2008 7:04 PM (GMT -6)   
Sometimes it it best to get all your emotions out. Cry until you cannot cry one more tear.  It is OK, your life has just taken an unexpected turn.  Next, Gather your troops to research YOUR best weapon to win this battle. 
It took a very long 6 weeks for us from the time we found out about my uncle's high PSA to all of his test results. But only a few days to get a game plan and begin our fight (thanks to the people here). My cousin and I have done the research and contacted doctors so he can go to work and deal with this in his own way.  He has not been able to tell people, we do that too.  David, let your family and friends help you and you always have us.  I saw this on a signature here (sorry I forget who has it), I put it on my refridgerator and passed it along to my children.    
Knowledge is Power and Power Takes Away The Fear!
David, you have the POWER
Father diagnosed 13 years ago @ age 63
Watchful waiting until PSA jumped from 6 to 10
Cancer found in 1 core
Gleason score 6
Seeds implanted
PSA has been low since (don't know exact numbers)
Uncle (mother's brother) age 68
PSA jump from 2 to 8 in 18 months (2/08)
DRE was normal (2/08)
Biopsy (3/08) Cancer found
Bone scan (clear) 
CAT scan showed 1 enlarged lymph node
Fine Needle Lymph Biopsy (Positive)
Gleason Score (7) 4 + 3
9 of 12 cores positive

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   Posted 4/15/2008 8:02 PM (GMT -6)   
Not sure if you have any books yet.  I found these to be helpful.
You Can Beat Prostate Cancer by Bob Marchini
Guide To Survivng Prostate Cancer by Dr. Patrick Walsh
Beating Prostate Cancer: Hormonal Therapy and Diet by Dr. Snuffy Myers
Father diagnosed 13 years ago @ age 63
Watchful waiting until PSA jumped from 6 to 10
Cancer found in 1 core
Gleason score 6
Seeds implanted
PSA has been low since (don't know exact numbers)
Uncle (mother's brother) age 68
PSA jump from 2 to 8 in 18 months (2/08)
DRE was normal (2/08)
Biopsy (3/08) Cancer found
Bone scan (clear) 
CAT scan showed 1 enlarged lymph node
Fine Needle Lymph Biopsy (Positive)
Gleason Score (7) 4 + 3
9 of 12 cores positive

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   Posted 4/15/2008 8:27 PM (GMT -6)   

Natural reaction to have emotions.  This is not fun stuff to deal with.

In my case, I was fine when talking with friends and family....but the woe is me emotions took over at times when I was alone.

As someone else posted, try to focus on researching options and finding out as much as you can about this dread disease.....and best of luck to you, sir....


Danman Bob
Age 57
Nerve-sparing, open prostate surgery November 13, 2007
Gleason score 9, PSA 14
Biopsy result - 9 of 12 sticks showed cancer
Despite high Gleason score, cancer was confined to the prostate
Possible post-surgery radiation therapy...decision likely in late April 2008, depending upon PSA at that time
Unrelated surgery January 2008 delayed incontinence recovery, which is now showing good signs of improvement (fraction of a pad a day as of March 2008)
Began using Viagra 3 times a week December 2007 to stimulate blood flow
Began using Osbon Erec-Aid Esteem manual pump for therapy mid-February 2008
Will probably begin using bimix injections in addition to Viagra and pump in May 2008

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   Posted 4/15/2008 8:59 PM (GMT -6)   


These emotions are only natural.  You have had a lot of good advise from our fellow posters to this forum   One of the things that helped me was to cry in the shower where you wife could not hear you.  Sometimes you need a little private time.  Take care and good luck on your journey.




age at dx 54 now 55
psa at dx 4.3
got the bad news 1/29/07
open surgery Duke Medical Center 5-29-07
never more than 2 pads
wear one for insurance now
ED still a problem
last PSA undetectable

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   Posted 4/15/2008 9:21 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi David:  You've received so many wonderful, informative replies here.  The answer to your main question, in my opinion, is YES -- you will be able to discuss your PCa with others without breaking into tears and it won't take a long time.  But it will take some time and you're only a week into your journey with this thing.  Once you've chosen your path toward recovery, you'll see a difference in your emotions.


At first, like you, I wondered if I would ever be the same again emotionally after my diagnosis.  I couldn't stand to talk about it with family and friends without starting to break down -- or them breaking down.  I also wondered if I'd be pre-occupied with cancer for the rest of my life, which I am not.


I've always been a “worrier” all my life and as a long-standing worrier, I can tell you that your anxiety and low-threshold for tears etc. will go away as you take each step toward your treatment and healing.


AGAIN, YES, down the line, you will be able to talk about it all calmly with others.  You will also be able to help calm others. 


BUT YOU’RE NOT EXPECTED TO DO THAT NOW.  You're at the stage where many of us guys have the normal initial reactions to the diagnosis such as, Shock; Not wanting anyone to know; Not wanting to talk much about it to friends and extended family; Not wanting to be put on the prayer lists etc.  (I appreciated being put on prayer lists, but at the beginning, it added to my anxiety.)  I also felt like people were looking at me in a different way than before.   Again, these are all normal feelings people diagnosed with cancer have.  (I’ve learned all this over the past year or so from fellow survivors and through my own experience.)


So here’s the deal David --  Do your research and have someone help you do that research if possible.  For me, the research was, at times, impossible because I'd get through a few paragraphs and couldn't stand to read another word about prostate cancer.  But my wonderful (and worried) wife read "Dr. Scardino's Prostate Book" to me on a daily basis.  That was invaluable to me -- there was so much uplifting information in that book.  Also, get on the phone and see if there are any Prostate Cancer support groups in your area.


David, once you get your game plan together and get on with it, you will feel much better.  Sometimes I still feel like crying about my experience with PCa, but for the most part, it's because of how lucky I was to have had the support I did throughout the process, including this forum.


Last but not least, unless it poses a threat to your job or income, don't be afraid to let friends, neighbors, clients etc. know what's going on.  You will be surprised to see how many people know other people who have been through PCa and are willing to share their experiences with you.


You hang in there dude.  It's gonna be OK!

And keep your questions coming.  We’re all in this together and very lucky to have each other.

Best to ya,


D.O.B - 8/9/52

PSA: First ever was 9.8 in late Oct. ‘06, two weeks later, 10.1

DRE: Negative

Biopsy results 11/22/06.  Both lobes involved.  Six out of eight cores positive - from 100 percent to 90, to 60, to 50, two 20s and two zeros.

Gleason 3+3 = 6

Da Vinci Robotic RP surgery, City of Hope, Jan 12, 2007

Post surgery pathology – Organ confined, Gleason still 6, margins clear.  Volume of tumor much less than biopsy suggested.  12 percent overall.

First post-surgery PSA -- Undetectable, 2/20/07

Second post-surgery PSA -- Undetectable, 9/11/07

Third post-surgery PSA -- Undetactable, 2/15/08

Post Edited (PianoMan) : 4/15/2008 8:32:26 PM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 4/16/2008 2:06 AM (GMT -6)   
everyone has given you great advice. And it is really early for you so i just wanna say I am giving you a big cyber (((((((((((hug))))))))))).

As you get over the shock, you will get into "problem solving" mode. Sounds like you have a great support system, so they can help you out too!!

Don't be afraid to lean on people for whatever you need. Keep posting here and rely on your real life support system too :) It really does get better with time.
Age: 63
Diagnosed: 10/30/06
PSA: 3.7 (2005: 3.4, 2004: 4.0)
Biopsy: 1/10 cancerous, 5% of one core, right apex.
Gleason: 3+3=6
Da Vinci: April 10, 2007, Denver CO
Path results: 1% of prostate involved. Very small tumors on both right and left apex. Negative margins, negative seminal vessicles, lymph nodes left intact. Gleason upgraded 3+4=7.
1st PSA Results: May 11, 2007 <.01

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   Posted 4/16/2008 6:29 AM (GMT -6)   


It's OK brother. I have been fighting this monster for 3 years now and everytime I give a talk or speech about my journey, I blubber. I blubber because of all the love that has been given to me. The hormones don't help, but as I have said many times before, the hormones have made me ONE HECK OF A DECORATOR. (HAHAHA)

Seriously, everything is controlled by attitude and faith. The support you will receive here and elsewhere will help you build a firm foundation for your emotions. Your faith is the cement that holds everything together.

We are all here for you, brother.

Today you get the BIG WAR EAGLE. Yea!!!!


Age: 55 ( still alive at 55)
PSA 43 7/2005
Biopsy 12/14 Gleason 7 & 9
Divinci 9/2005 - spread to bladder
HT - 10/2005 (Eligard every 6 months)
RT - 10/2005 (38 treatments)
PSA 0.12 to 1.9 2/2007
Bone Scan and CT 4/2007 Bone mets
Casodex 4/2007
Zometa infusions 4/2007
PSA 4.8 8/2007
PSA 6.34 12/2007
Radiation (15 treatments) started on bone mets 12/2007
PSA 6.72 1/2008
PSA 8.23 2/2008 - Starting prednisone for 30 days
PSA 14 2-29-2008 - start chemo on 3/12
PSA 12.82 3/1/2008 round one chemo
PSA 12.24 4/2/2008 round two chemo 
"I will persist without exception - I will find a way where there is no way"

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   Posted 4/16/2008 7:01 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi David,
I can understand the shock you're in currently but things will get better. When I was diagnosed couple of months ago, I was the same as this was a shock to all my relatives. The best advise I have for you, if I may, is to read all you can and get well educated about all the various treatments available. Also there are tons of folks on this forum that will help you as they did for me.
My prayers are with you and your family.

Biopsy done 3/2008
Pathology report: Gleason 6 (3+3), involving left lobe
DRE=15gm with indurated left base and mid prostate
Cores positive: left base medial, left base lateral, left mid medial and left mid lateral (4 of 12)
Clinical stage t2b.
Prostate Carcinorna 185
Urologist recommended no bone scan but I did anyway and result is negative.
Surgery schedule on 4/21/2008 in Austin by Dr Randy Fagin.

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   Posted 4/16/2008 8:18 AM (GMT -6)   

I can't add much to the already wonderful advice you have recieved, yes you will get over this first shock wave. I found once I got my mindset in place and my attitude aligned I go on trying to live as normal as possible and take those actions I felt best suited my situation. Take care and know we are all here to support each other and help us all get through this part of the journey of life we all have entered.

Age 49, PSA 6.22 on 9-26-06
Biopsy 11-01-06, 2 of 13 cores 10% cancer, 2 other cores abnormal Up-dated 20% prostate cancerous
Gleason score 3+3=6 After Surgery Pathology report 4+3=7 a couple agressive Grade 5 cells found
Da Vinci surgery 01-09-07 UW Madison
Pathology Report- cancer 100 % capsual contained 1-18-07
1st & 2nd Post PSA Blood Test .1 and less - Undetectable
3nd Post PSA Blood Test 01-17-07 .3
March 27th PSA .4 Begin Salvage Radiation April, 14 2008
Incontenence-Pad free since end of May 07 4 1/2 months post surgery 
ED back to 95% prior to surgery - no medication required.

Roger G
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   Posted 4/16/2008 9:12 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi David,

I was in your shoes all of eight months ago... wow time flies when your having fun. Let people in your place of employment, church, extra know what is going on. I did and ended up finding out a co worker who had prostate cancer 10 year prior. Talking to him, and people from these forums, really helps.

Hang in there!!

“Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn't really get you anywhere.”

Age: 43 (2008)
DRE Small Ridge on prostate, PSA 1.5
07/2007: Diagnosed cancer, T2c, Gleason 3+4=7
09/2007: Laparoscopic prostectomy @ Hamilton General, 4 hrs.
              Both nerve bundles spared
              Pathology Report: Tumor confined w/in prostate
              T2c, Gleason is 3+3=6
              Went home with JP drain
10/2007: Made return trip to hospital.  All urine was comming out JP drain.
10/2007: Catheter removed. Next to no leakage
11/2007: 1st PSA <.003 :)
              ED: Started Viagra, no response yet.
12/2007: Had confidence to go padless!!!!!
12/2007: ED:  Stopped Viagra as it's causing hemroid problems.
01/2007: 2nd PSA <.003 :)
              ED: next to no response.

Post Edited (Roger G) : 4/16/2008 8:15:21 AM (GMT-6)

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Date Joined Nov 2007
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   Posted 4/16/2008 2:05 PM (GMT -6)   

I can only agree with the prior replies.

Believe it or not, you need to look at the positive side of this:

1) you've been diagnosed with a disease that statistically has a high-cure this day, I stiil can't say that "C" word.

2) you were diagnosed at a relatively young age.

3) you have come to the BEST SITE ANYWHERE on this topic. The folks on this site are THE BEST!!!  They have helped me with many questions and concerns.

Obviously, we would of all preferred to not be diagnosed with it, but you gotta have a positive attitude and feel like you're gonna beat this ******!!!   (my apologies to anyone who is offended by the language!)



Age: 51
Last PSA before diagnosis: 2.9

Diagnosed: Oct 2007

Gleason: 3+3=6

RALP surgery: Jan 23, 2008 (Dr Costas Lallas @ Thomas Jefferson Hospital in Philadelphia)

1st Post-op appt: Feb 1, 2008 (negative margins, cancer contained within the capsule)

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