Thank you all for your input.
I spent time with dad today and got some more information from him. His PSA was a 5 and his Gleason Score is a 4+5=9 as I thought. The pain he is experiencing is in his leg, hip and lower back and from what I've read so far, that is a sign of metastasis in the bones. I am praying not. Dad didn't tell his surgeon about
the pain. Dad is going to the VA in Asheville to have the surgery by a doctor from Duke who works for the VA. The doctor is Dr. Fitzsimmons, I believe is what I saw this morning.
The sad part is, as I ate breakfast with my dad, he looked so distant and sad. I don't think he knows enough about
what to expect. I think he, like I, automatically thought death sentence. I don't think he had been given enough information to know anything about
what is going on with him. I want to give him some good materials with some hope in them so that he can at least get his spirits up. I know that mental health as well as physical health help with the recovery process. Dad is a proud guy and his concern, besides thinking his clock is ticking down quickly, doesn't want to be incontinent. I told him that the percentages are lower these days.
I'm not sure what good information I could pass on to him for him to read. Any ideas on PCa and treatment literature.
Has anyone heard of Dr. Fitzsimmons from Duke? I'm going to google him to get some information. They have already scheduled dad for surgery on June 25 and then will let him know if more treatment needs to be done.
When I start to talk with Dad about
this stuff, I almost want to cry. I can't think of life without him yet and I am scared.
Thank you all so much for your kind and welcoming words. I will be here every day for knowledge and companionship for both me and my dad. He doesn't have a computer, so, if you would like to leave him some messages of hope, I will print them and take them to him to read.
Blessings to you all,
about my Dad:
Gleason Score 4+5=9
Scheduled for surgery at Asheville VA on June 25
Surgeon: Dr. Fitzsimmons (from Duke)
Father's Age: 65
Hip, leg and back pain.
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