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wallypm
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   Posted 6/17/2008 3:45 PM (GMT -6)   
I know its a small thing but I'm having trouble with my shorts holding the pad against me and if it hangs down a little bit it seems the urine will drip down my leg rather than on the pad.  mad I have found the Jockey briefs to be the best but has someone else found something better? Someone had mentioned on an earlier post of reusable pants to hold the pads in place..
Age 70 -  Diagnosed late March
PSA 5.52 - stage T2b,T2c
Gleason 7 (4+3)
quad heart bipass 4/06/06
surgery on 4/28/2008, Greensboro NC by David Grapey
path report showed  lymph nodes clear cancer has spread to the margins gleason (4+3)
catheter removed 5/8
Post surgery PSA 0  at 4 weeks


Dirtmover
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   Posted 6/17/2008 4:50 PM (GMT -6)   
i use the hanes tagless bikini type very good . im recently down to pantiliners and you dont even know there in there.    good luck cool
Diagnosed November 2007
PSA 3.9 / Gleason 6 / TC1 6 cores 1 shows 25%
Sugery scheduled 5/29/08 - City of Hope - Dr. Mark Kawachi
 
 and now for the new ive been waiting for
 FINAL PATH REPORT:gleason upgraded to 3+4 T2c bilateral disease,tumor involvment 5%
extra prostatic extention:absent
seminal vesical invasion :absent
pathological staging:pTNM pT2 ORGAN CONFINED
margins free of carcinoma
usable erections ;6-6-08 with little blue pill
continence; 1 pad a day, dry at night


skeptic
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   Posted 6/17/2008 5:45 PM (GMT -6)   

Hey, this is no small thing!  Very important quality of life issue.

I found the most important thing is to have them tight fitting, so I use the pouch style and wash them in hot, hot water and dry the hell out of them to shrink them and they work great.

But you're absolutely right...too loose fitting and the pads just do not work properly.


Roger G
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   Posted 6/17/2008 7:32 PM (GMT -6)   
Basically anything but boxers.  I used Jockey Bikini brief sized correctly.  I'm a 38 inch waist so that's a large.
 
The above and a women pad, and then later a thin liner worked great.  So much shrinkage had occured I really did not have to worry about Willy wondering to far.
Age: 43 (2008)
DRE Small Ridge on prostate, PSA 1.5
07/2007: Diagnosed cancer, T2c, Gleason 3+4=7
09/2007: Laparoscopic prostectomy @ Hamilton General, 4 hrs.
              Both nerve bundles spared
              Pathology Report: Tumor confined w/in prostate
              T2c, Gleason is 3+3=6
              Went home with JP drain
10/2007: Made return trip to hospital.  All urine was comming out JP drain.
10/2007: Catheter removed. Next to no leakage
11/2007: 1st PSA <.003 :)
              ED: Started Viagra, no response yet.
12/2007: Had confidence to go padless!!!!!
12/2007: ED:  Stopped Viagra as it's causing hemroid problems.
01/2008: 2nd PSA <.003 :)
              ED: next to no response.
04/2008: 3nd PSA <.003 :)
              ED: next to no response.  Changed the Viagra prescription.
 


rob2
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   Posted 6/17/2008 7:58 PM (GMT -6)   
jockey briefs for me. when the catheter was removed i wore the depends at night and the pads during the day. i'm down to the pads during day and night. underwear is very important these days.
 
Age 48
occupation accountant
PSA increased from 2.6 to 3.5 in one year
biopsy march 2008 - cancer present gleason 7
decision - surgery (robotic)
surgery may 9, 2008 - houston, tx
pathology report -gleason 8
margins clear
waiting on first psa post surgery
continence ok during day - 1 pad
night time different story
kegel's twice a day 20 reps


ace06
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   Posted 6/17/2008 8:42 PM (GMT -6)   

 

I use depends with a depends pad for men. I can change the pad without pulling my clothes of but if the pad leaks, I can change the whole thing. I did a lot of experimenting and found this to be the most satisfactory. It looks like this is going to go on for a long time.


Age 73
PSA 4.1 in Nov 07. 4.5 in March 08 after antibotics
Biopsy 2 Pos out of 12, 1- 70%, 1<5%
Preop Pathology 3+3 contained no postop yet
robotic surgery May 5th 08
Doing good except very wet


kw
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   Posted 6/17/2008 10:14 PM (GMT -6)   
just tightie whities...and change the pad often if it feels heavy.

KW
    43 at Dx and Surgery
    PSA 5.7, Biopsy 3 of 12 positive (up to 75%) all on left side of prostate, Gleason 7
    RRP on Oct. 17, 2006 - Nerves on right side saved. All Lab's clear. 
    Cathiter in for 28 days due to complications in healing. Removed Nov. 9, 2006
    First Post op PSA on Dec. 11, 2006  Undetectable 0.00.
    ED workable and usable with Viagra.
    Feb. 20th, 2007 - Feb. 4th, 2008  Cystoscope, Two Collagen injections,Second Opinion Consultation for Incontinance at OU Medical Center, Bio-Feedback training, Chiropractic, Accupuncture  to try to resolve ongoing incontinance (4-6 pads a day)  All PSA's 0.00.
    Feb. 22nd, 2008 - Surgery to install the AMS AdVance Male Sling.
    March 27th, 2008 - Sling not working, Little or no improvement.
    April 18, 2008 - Collagen injection.  Back to using 4-6 full pads a day within a week.
    May 14, 2008 - Another collagen injection to try to Band-Aid the leaking for our June cruise.  Will start making conusultation appiontments for AUS after we return.
 
     


Piano
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   Posted 6/17/2008 11:36 PM (GMT -6)   
I wore a pad for two days, just as a precaution. I didn't realize at the time, but mine had a peel-off sticky backing to anchor it to my underwear. Your particular brand may not have this, but I mention it just in case it has and you have not noticed.
Age 63. Other than cancer, in good health; BMI 20
Pre-op: No symptoms; PSA 5.7; Gleason 4+5=9; cancer in 4 of 12 cores
7 March 2008, RRP, non nerve sparing
Two nights in hospital; catheter and staples out after 7 days
Continent, no pads needed from the get-go
Post Op: Stage pT2 M- N-; clear margins and lymph nodes; Gleason 4+4=8; prostate weight: 37gm
6-week PSA: 0 


StrictlyInc
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   Posted 6/17/2008 11:43 PM (GMT -6)   
Calvin Klein briefs...

I bought 20 pairs right after my surgery, all black for discreetness. Worked well for me and they seem to have a tighter fit than other briefs.
____________________

Prostate cancer diagnosed: May 15, 2006 (age 40)
Gleason score: pre-surgery 3+3=6; post-surgery 3+4=7
daVinci radical prostatectomy: July 25, 2006
size of tumor: approx 1.1 inches; negative margins from surgery

- number of pads/day at 3 months after surgery: 3 to 5
- number of pads/day at 4 months after surgery: 1 to 2
- number of pads/day at 6-18 months after surgery: 0 to 1

- 1st post-surgery PSA: 0 (Nov 2006); 2nd post-surgery PSA: 0 (Feb 2007)
- 3rd post-surgery PSA: 0 (May 2007); 4th post-surgery PSA: 0 (June 2007); 5th post-surgery PSA: 0

The search for timber: took Viagra/Cialis approx. every other day, ErecAid once a day, injections. Peyronie's diagnosed 7/5/07. Now on daily Cialis, L-arginine and pentoxyfylline. Peyronies has stabilized and significantly reversed.

- PGE1 batting average: .364 (4 for 11)
- Bimix #3 batting average: .722 (13 for 18) Bimix #1 batting average (13 for 13) = 1.000
- Trimix batting average: .500 (1 for 2) Grand total 31 for 44 = .705

"Lost in the valley without my horses, no one can tell me what my remorse is..."


41diagnosed
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Total Posts : 176
   Posted 6/18/2008 10:30 PM (GMT -6)   
haha, funny post, but geez, have we all had to consider this or what? having been a boxer man, it was a bummer to me that i couldn't wear them after surgery. one more thing to mourn. so i switched to boxer briefs for awhile. i was very fortunate and never had any significant incontinence, so a thin pad for protection was all i needed. hope this isn't too much info, but i also found that if i put the pad low and horizontal, it worked best for me since i seemed to always be more comfortable off to the side. i also hated the feeling of that pad down beween my legs. my wife found these pads that had "wings" that folded out and taped down so it provided added coverage. i remember having funny conversation with my wife who didn't get all my fuss over the position and why it was so challenging. but when i pointed out that us guys have moving parts that can point in different directions, the bulb went on that these things simply weren't designed for us!

it took me about 3 months to be confident that i didn't need the pads anymore. probably could have done without for near half that time, but didn't want to have regrets for not having the protection. so back to boxers for me and that was a happy day. also found that A&F has these great boxers that are a bit thicker cotton...an added bit of protection. i'm sure that's not what A&F has in mind for their marketing though :)
 
42 yo. now
 
5/07 PSA 4.65 at routine physical
6/07 biopsy positive for cancer...Gleason 3+4...diagnosed at 41 y.o.
6/07-9/07 manic research and interviews with physicians across the country in search of the "right" decision.  I went to Mass General in Boston, Loma Linda, University of Chicago and Northwestern.
9/17/07 - Radical Retropubic Prostatectomy Surgery at Northwestern Memorial in Chicago by Dr. William Catalona.  Thankful the father of the PSA test was right here in Chicago.
 
Post op pathology was Gleason 3+4 with negative margins, no seminal vesicale involvement, no lymphatic or vascular invasion, bladder and urethral free and tumor volume was 5% of 27.3g.  
 
9/27/07 - Catheter removal...let the games begin...
 
12/07 - Threw out the pads.  I only had to use 1 pad per day for protection against minor drips. 
 
I started Trimix 8 weeks after surgery with success.
 
I hope someday I won't need injections, but I hope more that my PSA stays at 0 forever.
 
 
 


Tony Crispino
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   Posted 6/19/2008 1:26 AM (GMT -6)   
The Michael Jordon Commercial! The hanes comfort fit are excellent, and very comfortable as well.

Tony
Age 45 (44 when Dx)
Pre-op PSA was 19.8
Surgery on Feb 16, 2007 @ The City of Hope
Post-Op Pathology: Gleason 4+3=7, positive margins, Stage pT3b (Stage III)
HT began in May, '07 with Lupron and Casodex 50mg
IMRT radiation for 38 Treatments ending August 3, '07
Current PSA (May 9 '08): <0.1
I will continue HT until May '09. 
Years in Remission (3/23/07): 1
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STAY POSITIVE!
 
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kcragman
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Date Joined May 2008
Total Posts : 240
   Posted 6/19/2008 11:08 AM (GMT -6)   
I've always worn tightie whities, so the TW's with a pad have worked for me. Still struggling with constant drippage when I stand up, but as long as I change my pad every 2-3 hours, I'm good to go. Yeah, I'm still doing 5-7 pads a day.
kcragman
Age: 52
March 2006: PSA 2.5
Dec 2007:   PSA taken for insurance application. I did not see the results until late Jan '08 - after I was rejected. Their lab said PSA 4.5. PSA again in Feb '08: 3.7.
March 2008: Biopsy. Gleason 7 (4+3) 12 cores taken. 5 on the left side were cancerous and the 6th did not look good.
May 5, 2008: Da Vinci robotic laparoscopy at GW Hospital, Washington DC.
Post op: Gleason 9 (4+5). 15% of prostate involved. Negative margins. Lymph nodes and associated glands all appear to be cancer free.


wallypm
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Date Joined Apr 2008
Total Posts : 48
   Posted 6/19/2008 11:11 AM (GMT -6)   
From the posts received it seems that those of us with a lot of leaking are more affected than those with a little dripping.  I know it's quite frustrating to be somewhere and see a wet spot in the crotch mad also it can somewhat limit our activity.
From the comments received, I've tried most of the Jockey products and feel the Bikini shorts may be best but appreciate the comment to try and shrink them to tighten them up, will give it a try. Have not tried MJ's Hanes, nor Calvin Kleins but will do so.
Someone else on an earlier post had mentioned a men's panty made out of nylon? designed to hold pads in place that can be worn under boxer shorts, anyone familiar with this? Hopefully this won't continue too long or I can at least get down to the lite liners yeah

Age 70 -  Diagnosed late March
PSA 5.52 - stage T2b,T2c
Gleason 7 (4+3)
quad heart bipass 4/06/06
surgery on 4/28/2008, Greensboro NC by David Grapey
path report showed  lymph nodes clear cancer has spread to the margins gleason (4+3)
catheter removed 5/8
Post surgery PSA 0  at 4 weeks


sargeandham
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   Posted 6/19/2008 12:56 PM (GMT -6)   
Tight jockey .  This was suggested by dr, due to swelling of test.  this also helped keep depends tight.  I wore pads for 13 months 4 to 6 daily. June 3  08 had advanced male sling surg.  No pads since.  This surgery is about the same recovery time as Davinci,  no lifting etc. no driving two weeks, but boy is it nice not to leak after so long.

age 65  pre-op PSA was 10.2
bio 2005 was neg psa 4.2 ., 10-06 was 4.5  neg.bio
01-08  4.7 could not determine, dr. requested send to J.Hopkins, one from Oct 07 came back pos. gleason 3+3  2 of 10 positive.
robot assisted henry ford hosp 5/07 psa every 3 mons  0.1 since great...,
incontience 4 to 5 pads daily for year terrible...
6/03/08 advanced male sling installed.its been a week no leakage  one time at night //great..//dr. excellant he  never gave up. sling done Colo. SC


StrictlyInc
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Total Posts : 357
   Posted 6/19/2008 3:36 PM (GMT -6)   
On a related note, I was on a long (4 day) weekend in Palm Springs this last weekend, so I was in swimming trunks the whole time and in the pool... it was so nice to go without a pad for 4 days!

and no, I didn't leak in the pool. I am actually at the point (finally) of really being mostly not needing pads, except for the odd stress incontinence. I still wear a pad during the day just in case, but maybe now I'll try going without. Funny thing is, now I feel naked without them.
____________________

Prostate cancer diagnosed: May 15, 2006 (age 40)
Gleason score: pre-surgery 3+3=6; post-surgery 3+4=7
daVinci radical prostatectomy: July 25, 2006
size of tumor: approx 1.1 inches; negative margins from surgery

- number of pads/day at 3 months after surgery: 3 to 5
- number of pads/day at 4 months after surgery: 1 to 2
- number of pads/day at 6-18 months after surgery: 0 to 1

- 1st post-surgery PSA: 0 (Nov 2006); 2nd post-surgery PSA: 0 (Feb 2007)
- 3rd post-surgery PSA: 0 (May 2007); 4th post-surgery PSA: 0 (June 2007); 5th post-surgery PSA: 0

The search for timber: took Viagra/Cialis approx. every other day, ErecAid once a day, injections. Peyronie's diagnosed 7/5/07. Now on daily Cialis, L-arginine and pentoxyfylline. Peyronies has stabilized and significantly reversed.

- PGE1 batting average: .364 (4 for 11)
- Bimix #3 batting average: .722 (13 for 18) Bimix #1 batting average (13 for 13) = 1.000
- Trimix batting average: .500 (1 for 2) Grand total 31 for 44 = .705

"Lost in the valley without my horses, no one can tell me what my remorse is..."


anglophile
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   Posted 6/21/2008 5:18 PM (GMT -6)   
I love wearing boxers but I had the same problem with the pads.

What I did was buy washable mesh underpants that hold the pad close to me and they fit so well I can even wear boxers over them.

I use Prevail pads and they stick right inside these mesh pants which are snug, but they're mesh so they breathe. I got them here along with my pads (I'd rather buy mail order than go into the grocery store for pads):

http://www.cwimedical.com/mesh_pants.html
Age 59 - diagnosed in Jan. 08 after biopsy
da Vinci Robotic Prostatectomy 4/11/08 - both nerves spared
Catheter removed 4/25/08
Prostate Pathology:
Gleason Grade 6 (3+3)
Apex: neg
Base: positive (tumor present at right and left base)
Peripheral Margins: neg
No extra prostatic extension seen
Tumor corresponds to a AJCC/pTMN stage II
5 wks post-op Continence: 1 pad night, 2 during day
7 wks post-op Continence: 2 pads every 24 hours
First post-op PSA at 7 wks: 0.1


Salty_clark
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   Posted 6/21/2008 6:29 PM (GMT -6)   
I am a prolific leaker when standing and moving around so I selected a pad that would hold a resonably large amount of urine but would be tight to my groin to allow a feeling of confidence that the leaking would not escape the limits of the pad.  Also I wanted a pad that would be easily removed and replaced as I am now going through about 4 or 5 during a 24 hour period.  Initially some 8 weeks ago after my da Vinci I tried the tight briefs with a removable pad and it just simply was not the answer.  So I selected Depends belted shields (super absorbency) purchased at Walmart for about $14 for 30 pads.  There are two straps with buttons on either end that fit into button holes on the pad at each of the pad's corners.  The stretchability of the straps allows a very tight fit around the hips and the pad fits snugly up into and around the "essentials."  I am able to wear my favorite soft fabric boxers over the top of the pads and it makes it almost "livable " with this terrible side effect.  I do not have to remove my clothes to change the pad just simply use a "wipe" product and fit the buttons of the new pad through and around my legs to pull them on.  I have adjusted my schedule to taking two showers per day to take care of any cleanliness issues and possible infection problems.  I am coping as best I can.  I find that I don't leak when sitting and leak very little when lying down.  Stress incontinence is the main problem.  Hopefully this will all get better in time for all of us.
 
Salty
Age 75 at DX 76 on 9 May 08
DRE positive with nodule 15 Jan 08
PSA 3.8 18 Jan 08
Biopsy 11 Mar 08 Gleason 8 (4+4) on the right 3 out of 12 positive <5%. Gleason 7 (4+3) on the left 1 out of 11 positive <5%.
Bone scan and CT scan Negative 12 Mar 08
Robot Assisted da Vinci prostectomy with Dr Fagin in Austin scheduled for 30 April 08.
- - - - - - - -
da Vinci successfully completed by Dr Fagin as scheduled.
Path Report:
Gleason downgraded to 3+4=7
Tumors confined to the prostate.
Bilateral tumor on right side 5 of 10 levels and on left side tumor present in 9 of 10 levels.
Margins Negative.
Extraprostatic Extension Negative
Seminal Vesicle Invasion Negative
Stage pT2c
As far as it goes between you, me and the fence post I am cured. But I am required to keep an eye out for the PSA due  toward the end of June.


anxiouswife
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   Posted 6/28/2008 1:48 AM (GMT -6)   

sargenandham,

Read your post and am curious how the advance male sling is working? Hopeing it is still successful for you. Who was your doctor in Colorado? Was it Denver or Colorado Springs?  My husband is 4 months post surgery and still incontinent. It is driving him crazy. It eats away at him every day and does not seem to be improving. We are researching procedures to stop the leaking. Can you share your experience? Was the surgery long or difficult? My husbands RP surgery was done in Colorado. Don't know why he is still incontinent after 4 months. He is so miserable, but tries to stay as "normal" as possible, but it is really affecting our life on a daily basis. Would greatly appreciate if you can share your sling experience. Thanks, AnxiousWife

 


Husband Age 61
PSA 2.32 1/06
PSA 4.98 9/07
Biopsy 12/07 results in hospitalization for severe sepsis infection
Infection causes congestive heart failure
Biopsy results: Gleason 3+3=6 10% of 1 of 6 cores on left 0 of 6 cores on left
Echo stress test 1/16/08 cleared for surgery- reevaluate congestive HF 7/08
RRP 2/26/08 blood transfusion needed
Adenocarcinoma Gleason 3+3=6 pT2c, NX. MX Clear margins Seminal vesicles no evidence of malignancy
Incontinence-bad -cysto 8 weeks post surgery for burning and incontinence-looks fine
ED-tried Cialsis(no luck) but worried about effect on heart-Now using VED for therapy
12 weeks post op incontinence still bad

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