about your question whether the doc would get made at you if you wanted a 2nd opinion........my response would be, "who cares?".
This is YOUR life......you get as many opinions that you want.
I was fortunate, my urologist realized that patients do get 2nd opinions, and told me he had no problem at all if I did pursue a 2nd opinion or seeked out treatment from someone else.
Since I wanted robotic surgery (which my urologist didn't do), I had no problems "shopping around".
Good luck to you.
Last PSA before diagnosis: 2.9
Diagnosed: Oct 2007
RALP surgery: Jan 23, 2008 (Dr Costas Lallas @ Thomas Jefferson Hospital in Philadelphia)
1st Post-op appt: Feb 1, 2008 (negative margins, cancer contained within the capsule)
1st PSA post-op: May 23, 2008 - <0.1 undetectable