I leaked like a sieve for 9 weeks and overnight it dramatically changed for the better... Just when I was giving up hope and figured I might have to take other measures. The kegals and info about them already given above are the major key. Also excercise and when I started to do a lot of ladder work on a house we were building, I leaked a lot, but I do think the up/down on the ladder helped a lot... If I had it to do all over again, I think I would have done more stair excercises.
The one thing I made sure of was that the pads, changing of them, and disposal did not change the activities I wanted to do day to day. I always carried a few extras with me and a disposal bag. I got so I could change them on the fly... whether hIking in the car at a grocery store parking lot, and on the top of a 10 ft step ladder. Was not afraid to tell friends I was wearing a pad and sometimes excused myself to change it. Do not let the male "pride" we seem to be cursed with stand in the way of your desired lifestyle. The current odds with today's surgeries are 90% for total recovery, and 95% for recovery except for an occasion "slip" while lifting, coughing, laughing, or sneezing and you forget to do your kegalsto hold back a little leakage. And besides, it is most likely you will be able to urinate with a stream like you had when you were 16...
After 3-4 years of annual PSA 4-6, biopsy recommended
3/13/2007 - 12 point biopsy - Left 0/6 Right 1/6 Gleason 3+3 T1c
4/24/2007 - DaVinci performed at Virginia Mason hospital in Seattle
5/2/2007 - Catheter Out! Final pathology of Gleason 6 T2c Nx Mx, approx 20% of prostate involved, positive margin, but only at 2 focal points.
6/28/2007 9 weeks incontinance... Overnite, went from 4-6 soaked pads a day from prev 8 weeks to 2 barely wet pads a day.
7/12/2007 11 weeks post-op Minimal leakage... one small pad a day
7/18/2007 First Post-Op PSA... 0.01 !!!
9/10/2007 Pad free and ED at 75% with 100mg Viagra generic
6/26/2008 2nd Post-OP PSA at 14 months... 0.02