I feel for you. I had them years ago and yes, they are very painful. I was given cortisone suppositories to take to help heal them but it took a good three months to do so. The only thing I would suggest is you get a pillow or tube with a hole in to sit on that's what I had to use in order to sit and be comfortable at work. I was just getting ready to see a Proctologist to have it surgically fixed when the pain started to subside. It takes a long time because it's in the dirtiest area of your body but they will heal eventually.