My husband has been on Lupron since diagnosis and has since been diagnosed with a second cancer that has caused intense pain throughout his body. I have changed his dressings on his nephronomy(sp?) tubes and held his bags as he showers. This past week he spent 8 days in the hospital with complications (bowel impactions) and with incredible pain. I rubbed his feet and legs for hours to help distract him from the pain. Although it has been a while since we have had sex and we will never have intercourse again, I feel we have become far more intimate in the past 4 months than in the 30 years we have been enjoying sex. I can remember the last time we had sex and I cherish the memory, but I now enjoy every moment I have with him with a deep understanding of passion and love. In many ways, rubbing his feet has expressed my love for him far more than intercourse ever could. I am 13 years younger than Larry and at times he worries about me not getting my fair share (sex) but I hope he understands that the touch of his hand or the sound of his voice are far more important in the grand scheme of things.
I don't want to sound insensitive to those who are battling ED--for I truly feel for you all, but life without sex is far better than no life at all.
Age of diagnosis--62
2/28/08--PSA 279 DRE--positive/rock hard
Flomax and Casadex started
Biopsy--3/7/08--187cc--Gleason 10--12 of 12 positive--Perineural and LV invasion identified
T4 bone met.--hydroureteronephrosis/right kidney
3/28/08--Lupron Inj. started
4/7/08--Zometa IV started
5/20/08--Tubes placed in kidneys (through back)
5/21/08--diagnosed Neuro Endocrine Prostate carcinoma
5/28-30/08--1st round Chemo
6/18-20/08--2nd round Chemo
7/2/08--blood clot--Coumadin started
7/10/08--Stop chemo--cancer not responding