Sorry you have to be here but you have found a great support system full of the most caring people :)
As you might see from my signature, my husband was diagnosed just over a year ago with a gleason of 8. His bone scan showed it had spread to neck, ribs, pelvis etc etc and seminal vesicle - he was told surgery wasn't an option either
Like you, we were in total shock. He was given hormone treatment only
One year later and he is doing fine! Nobody would know there was anything wrong with him, he continues to work at a very physical job and, apart from the odd hot flush, has no side effects at all
Of course the cancer is always at the back of his mind, and every little ache and pain makes him wonder if there is a problem, but his nurse has cut his visits to the hospital from three months to six months
Please know that even if your scan is not good (and I hope that it is good), there is plenty of hope, especially with the recent breakthrough in drugs aimed at prostate cancer.
Wishing you very best wishes