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Everything you are feeling is normal and you are not alone in this journey. There are a lot of wives, who are very informed and supportive, who post on this site, so ask a lot of questions and stay in touch.
communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship and I believe your husband would want to know what you are feeling and worried about.
A couple does'nt lose a sexual relationship when a man has his prostate removed. A side effect of surgery, in most cases, is a temporary loss of ability to have an erection. There are many, many things a loving couple can do to maintain sexual intimacy, just use your imagination. For me personally it has been fun and exciting to try new and different things.
I hope this information is helpful and not offensive.
We have a family history of PCa. My Dad and uncle died from it at 65 and 53. My PSA velocity increased in the last 2 years and I had to talk my GP into refering me to a urologist.
Biopsy results: 5 of 11 cores positive, all 30%. Gleason 6. T1c. PSA 2.53 Date of biopsy 15MAY08.
Open RRP at Johns Hopkins with Dr. Partin on 09JUL08.
Pathology report: Gleason 6, pT2, neg. margins, 0 lymph node and seminal vessical, organ confined, I lost 1 nerve bundle and 22 lymph nodes.
As of today, about a month after surgery, I feel at about 80%. Urinary control seems to be improving. Little Elvis has taken a nap and has not awakened yet. I hope when he wakes up he is well rested because he is going to get one heck of a workout.