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Date Joined Aug 2006
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   Posted 9/24/2008 3:52 PM (GMT -6)   
Before my husband was diagnosed with PC he never was much interested in IC.  I was always the one with the "healthy" appetite.  Once he was diagnosed with advanced PC, I blamed his previous uninterest on the PC.  It has been and is very very hard for me.  The doctor has given him something to get an erection (I think it is cialus), but he sleeps from the time he comes home from work until he wakes up to go to bed!  I am a very lonely married person.  I realize that he is hurting, but he doesn't talk about it, and none of you, even with your treatments, seem to be going through this. 
I had BC right before he was diagnosed with his PC, but I still felt the need to "be loved" even through my chemo.  He doesn't even care if I hug him, kiss him or whatever. We never ever talk at all anymore and I am always the one that has to make suggestions about doing anything, whether it be sex or just going out.  He claims he is not depressed.   
I admire you wives for sticking around your men because I am having a very hard time, but I must be the only one being shunned through this whole ordeal.  It seems as though you men are leaning to your wives, mine just ignores me.  He doesn't even try anymore. 
Sometimes I don't even want to go home.
Does anyone have any help?
Diagnosed 2006 w/mets
Now on chemo every 3 weeks; lupron every 3 months; and zometa every other treatment
PSA .4

Steve n Dallas
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Date Joined Mar 2008
Total Posts : 4839
   Posted 9/24/2008 3:58 PM (GMT -6)   
If the lack of love wasn’t there before PC then him getting PC isn’t going to help…

Sounds like you guys need some good serious marriage counseling. Somebody has to get him to talk.
Age 53   - 5'11'   205lbs
Overall Heath Condition - Good
PSA - July 07 & Jan 08 -> 1.3
Gleason - 6
(biopsy done March 4, 2008-> 2 of 12)
06/25/08 - Da Vinci robotic laparoscopy

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Date Joined Oct 2007
Total Posts : 103
   Posted 10/3/2008 5:52 PM (GMT -6)   

I strongly agree with the counseling.

Life is too short to miss out on any intimacy whether it includes IC or not.  This is not love.

The time is now!


64 years old 100307; healthy; active,
married 41 years, good strong erections before surgery.
DaVinci Prostate Removal February 5, 2007
2/12 samples malignant.
Catheter removal 2/13.
Viagra 25mg every other day from 2/14 to 5/12.
Incontinence almost gone after three months.
No pads, occasional  dribble.
Lavitra every other day 5/12 to 7/22.
Muse 1000mcg - no help (50% at best).
Cialis twice a week 7/25/07 to 11/6/08.
Vacuum pump - no help.
Trimix injections started.  0.09cc is great! 10/08/07.
First drug induced erection 10/8/07....Wow!
Natural erections - 0 as of 10/25/07.
PSA's, three to date undetectable.  Thank God!
Total ED...19 months.  URO took me off oral drugs 11/2008.

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