You have taken the correct first step, reach out, to ask and to express yourself. You are never really alone, ever. Dont let the situation describe who you are, but you to describe the situation. You and your husband are truely entitled to morn this news. Set this time to morn and also set a time to rise up and get to work at beating it. This disease can be beaten and you and your husband will be one of the many that does, believe in it.
In my situation my wife and grown daughter took a very aggresive approach and I had to ask both of them, who love me very much, to settle down a little bit and give me a little time to absorb what I was just told. Then ,with both of them, I developed a plan that I was comfortable with and then assigned tasks. And once I was able to come to terms that I had cancer I noticed that not only was I dealt a hard blow but my wife and daughter as well. It took time for me to understand that others truly had a loving and caring interest in me and my situation. I realized that I could not let this consume me and needed to let my girls back into my heart.
Most of us here are not the same Men we were before we were diagnosed and treated, but ALL of us here are greater Men in countless ways.
There is a multitude of us and our loved ones on this site that will be here for you and your husband anytime you need.
My sincere welcome to you, I am very sorry your here but I am so glad you came.
Diagnosed 01-08-08 @ 53 years old
DRE normal , 2004 Biospy negative - 2008 Biopsy positive (01-08-08)
10 cores, 1 positive and at 1% of that one core
PSA @ surgery 6
Bone and Ct scans negative
clinicaly Staged at T1C - Gleason 3+3 = 6
Robotic Da Vinci performed March 27th, 2008
University of Chicago,Hospital stay 30 hours - Catheter out in 7 days normaly expected leakage Erectile function better with Viagra
Post Pathology T2C, Gleason 7, 10 % of both portions of prostate, Seminal vessels clear, fat tissue clear,Tumor on top of prostate. 1 positve margin measureing less than .5 ml at urethra and bladder..
Six week PSA < 0.1 , 4 month PSA <.05 Gen II test. Urologist recomends to hold off on Radiation and watch PSA closely. Oncologist and Radiation Oncologist seem to lean to doing pre-emptive radiation.Uroligist says 50/50 chance of PSA re-occurence.
I have decided to hold off and see for 3 months.
Next PSA October...
Six Month PSA 0.010, undetectable per Urologist
Next PSA Six months or at one year (March)