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Bob D
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Date Joined Mar 2008
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   Posted 10/22/2008 2:07 PM (GMT -6)   

I copied this from another forum. It is a post from a lady about a couple that has used Tantric Sex as a way around the fact the man has lost his penis.

Here is her post:


How can a man without a penis have a sex life that other men envy?

Just answering some email from a loving partner of an patient looking for ideas about sex... and realized that I hadn't posted this story here for several years. Thought I would do it today!

This was a true story told by a sex therapist and doctor from the UCSF Medical School who came to our IC support group meeting back in 1996. He told the story of a couple who had a sex life that he, frankly, envied. They were loving, compassionate, and completely sexually fulfilled. Yet, there was a shocking twist. The man had been in Vietnam and had suffered a horrific groin/shrapnel injury that had destroyed his penis. It was amputated and he returned home with an injury that most men fear.

So, how can a man without a penis have an amazing sex life that other men who were physically intact envied?? It was all about experimentation. The couple loved each dearly and decided to explore their sexuality in new ways, eventually finding TANTRIC SEX.

One translation of the word Tantra is "tools for expansion." Tantra is over 1500 years old, and like yoga it originated in India. It is a set of teachings and practices that are specifically designed to help us feel more, to increase our awareness of our own energy and the energy around us. The path that Tantra uses to these ends is the exploration of sexual energy. The goal of Tantric sex is to allow us to experience more depth and breadth in our sexuality. The goal is not necessarily orgasm, but rather enriching the whole sexual experience.



Has anyone experimented with Tantric Sex or know of anyone who has? I find it interesting as a way of possibly coping with erectile disfunction.


    1. Age 59, psa 4.7 in Jan. 08. Biopsy: one positive sample out of 13. 1% of one sample cancer. Prostate removed on 3/5/08. Open Surgery. Northeast Georgia Medical Center, Gainesville Ga. Nerves spared. Cath out 12 days later. Continence good. No pads needed since 6/10/08. First PSA: Less than 0.1 on 6/17/08. First erection five days post op and have been improving well since then. Full erection now possible (less than four months post op) with the assistance of Cialis.  Post Op Biopsy : No malignant cells in lymph node. Gleason 3=4=7. Tumor on both lobes. Urethral margins/apex free of neoplasia. Right and left seminal vesicles free of neoplasia. No invasion of prostatic capsule of the resection margins are noted by the tumor. Tumor occupies 10 to15% of the prostate gland. Path staging T2c, NO, MX- Group staging II.  Focal areas of perineural invasion by tumor are noted. 80% natural erections and full erections with 10mg Cialis. 9/22/08-Took 10mg Cialis on Monday night, had very usable full hard erection at night, the next morning, and the following Thursday morning, 60 hours after original dose !! Orgasm quality Excellent.!!!!! I am pleased with the progress so far. Married to same wonderful woman for 39 years. She is still beautiful and sexy as ever. A great help in my recovery !!:

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   Posted 10/22/2008 3:07 PM (GMT -6)   
There are many ways (outside the scope of this forum!) to have sex that is enjoyable to both partners, and not all involve penile penetration.

I find that I now last a lot longer than I used to, and because of that sometimes don't orgasm. However even so, I still find sex very enjoyable. Like eating a cake but not having the icing! I suppose I could call it Tantric, but have never thought of it like that.

As the post says, experimentation is the key. We all differ in our level of ED, so it's a matter of trial and error to find what now works for us. Things are certainly different to what they were before, but need be no less pleasurable.

Age 63. Other than cancer, in good health; BMI 20
Pre-op: No symptoms; PSA 5.7; Gleason 4+5=9; cancer in 4 of 12 cores
7 March 2008, RRP, non nerve sparing
Two nights in hospital; catheter and staples out after 7 days
Continent, no pads needed from the get-go
Post Op: Stage pT2 M- N-; clear margins and lymph nodes; Gleason 4+4=8; prostate weight: 37gm
6-week and 7-month PSAs: 0
Bimix injections working well 

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