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kreplerfp
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   Posted 11/6/2008 5:42 PM (GMT -7)   
 
 I have a comment to make. Why is it when people ask about your surgery, it seems that there are some people who always have to ask whether you can get an erection yet. I think for PC people like us, who have had to go through our surgery and some have to live with radiation treatments and leakage, should have to not even acknowledge that question. Where I work three guys have asked me if I can get it up yet. My surgery was Sept 18 and theres no way I can get it up yet. Theres alot of guys out there that think your not a man if you can`t get it up. I`m not going to acknowledge any more little comments about being able to use it or to still be able to.... Please the old lady. Anybody else run into this situation. And if you have how do you repond?
 
Fred
Diagnosed Feb 08
 
PSA 6.3
gleason 3+3
T2C
first biopsy 1 of 10 needles positive
surgery Sept 18 08
bone scan negative
evidence of sinus histiocytosis?
involvement of the margins identified at right and left apex and right anterior surface
also perineural invasion
no extraprostatic extention
no seminal vesicle invasion
tumor cells aggressive features of moderate to severe pleomorphism
possible radiation depending on first  PSA  Nov 12
kept left side bundle of nerves but lost some of the right side bundle


ups4
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Date Joined Nov 2008
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   Posted 11/6/2008 6:22 PM (GMT -7)   

First, I can't believe anybody would be so inconsiderate. Obviously they aren't very well informed, which isn't surprising. You could go into great detail explaining it to them, but would probably be a waste of time. Since my surgery, I have the feeling I should educate everyone I see about the danger of complacency regarding this disease.

Instead, I would ask them if they've had their PSA level checked lately, and then give the big thumbs up and say, "Yeah, baby....hard a rock." smilewinkgrin

Paul


my get-up-and-go musta got up and went


Art662
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   Posted 11/6/2008 6:24 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey Fred -

Well, here's a response from a non pc guy on the very question of ED. I'm sorry you have to go through all you guys have to go through. But I do know of the comments and questions from other men. Pretty insensitive, but men can be pigs, as well all know.

Being in the ED boat for 27 years, I get lots of questions and comments about the very same thing, as most everyone knows of my condition.

I know some of the comments and personal questions directed at me were really a round about way to get some information - they are curious. There are a lot of guys that have the very same problems with ED that do not have PC. I have had many, many dialogs with men that I barely knew when they found out about my ED and treatments.

Personally, it never bothered me much. But when someone irritated me I would always tell them "man, it gets rock hard, like I was 18 again" - smile and walk away. Usually I never got another question or comment from them.

Welcome to the board - there are some exceptional people here, always taking their time to help.

All the best to you.

 
 
 

1979: Organic impotence at age 25 from drug reaction to coumadin.
1979 Half shunt & vena cava clip emergency surgery - 4 weeks in Ohio State Medical Center
1981 IPP implanted - 3 1/2 weeks Baylor U. Houston by F. Brantley Scott
1981 IPP replaced - 10 days Baylor U. Houston by F. Brantley Scott
1985 IPP replaced IPP due to implant shift - 1 week Mayo Clinic by William Furlow
1985 IPP replaced, penile degloving to correct scarring, shortening and cylinder contracture. Suspensatory Ligament procedure - 2 1/2 weeks Mayo Clinic by William Furlow
1989 IPP replaced, repair of Tunica albuginea around corpora cavernosa . Degloving to relive penile shortening - 10 days Baylor U. Houston by F. Brantley Scott.
2000 IPP removed due to fluid loss and possible infection - 6 days Cleveland Clinic by Dr. Karl Montague
2000 IPP replaced - 4 days Cleveland Clinic by Dr. Karl Montague.
2002 IPP replaced, penile degloving to correct penile shortening due to IPP removal for 2 months. Repair of Tunica albuginea around corpora cavernosa - 3 days U of Washington, Seattle Dr. Richard Berger.


Tony Crispino
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   Posted 11/6/2008 7:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Fred,
Great post. I agree with your points. I have learned to live with it. I am very open about what I have lived through. I do so to let people know it's why we need a cure that doesn't maime our bodies. But just as bad as the comments about whether I can get it up or not, my own brother's best line when we see each other twice a year is whether I have grown boobs or not because of the hormone therapy. It is insensitive, but I love my brother dearly. I have basically let it go like water off a duck. But for every guy who has had incontinence, his modesty stripped, his ED exposed, or his pride dinged, I pray that they remain hopeful and that they can ride this out with the courage it requires. That is why this board is so valuable! We can all share without concern that we would lose our dignity in the face of this adversity.

I can't recall how many times growing up as a young buck, that we would talk about how studly we are and how it matters. But I am refreshed when my son asks me how I am doing, and he fully understands what I have endured.

My two cents!

Tony
Age 46 (44 when Dx)
Pre-op PSA was 19.8
Surgery on Feb 16, 2007 @ The City of Hope
Post-Op Pathology: Gleason 4+3=7, positive margins, Extra Prostatic Extension (EPE)
Bilateral seminal vesicle invasion (SVI); Stage pT3b, N0, Mx
HT began in May, '07 with Lupron and Casodex 50mg (2 Year ADT)
IMRT radiation for 38 Treatments ending August 3, '07
Current PSA (September 17 '08): <0.1 ~ Undetectable!
 
You can visit my Journey at:
 
STAY POSITIVE!
 
 


Bob D
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Total Posts : 199
   Posted 11/6/2008 9:11 PM (GMT -7)   
I had a few guys ask me, but even more women ask my wife.
I think it is a sort of sadistic tease they enjoy. It is a private thing but
some just boldly ask. My nerve sparing surgery worked well and I started
getting partial erections back within a week post op so we were not lieing when we told
them yes. Most did not believe it. So why even ask. Because they wanted to talk about
it with their spouses and friends. Gossip. We still get asked if I can "get it up". Well the truth is
80% natural and 100% with 10mg Cialis. I do not go into detail but now just say "Hell Yes" !!!
Some still do not believe me. I do not know how to prove it unless I take a picture of it with a
current event headline on a newspaper behind it. LOL.
    1. Age 59, psa 4.7 in Jan. 08. Biopsy: one positive sample out of 13. 1% of one sample cancer. Prostate removed on 3/5/08. Open Surgery. Northeast Georgia Medical Center, Gainesville Ga. Nerves spared. Cath out 12 days later. Continence good. No pads needed since 6/10/08. First PSA: Less than 0.1 on 6/17/08. First erection five days post op and have been improving well since then. Full erection now possible (less than four months post op) with the assistance of Cialis.  Post Op Biopsy : No malignant cells in lymph node. Gleason 3=4=7. Tumor on both lobes. Urethral margins/apex free of neoplasia. Right and left seminal vesicles free of neoplasia. No invasion of prostatic capsule of the resection margins are noted by the tumor. Tumor occupies 10 to15% of the prostate gland. Path staging T2c, NO, MX- Group staging II.  Focal areas of perineural invasion by tumor are noted. 80% natural erections and full erections with 10mg Cialis. 9/22/08-Took 10mg Cialis on Monday night, had very usable full hard erection at night, the next morning, and the following Thursday morning, 60 hours after original dose !! Orgasm quality Excellent.!!!!! I am pleased with the progress so far. Married to same wonderful woman for 39 years. She is still beautiful and sexy as ever. A great help in my recovery !!:


Paul1959
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   Posted 11/7/2008 5:16 AM (GMT -7)   
Two ways to answer this - and yes - it happens surprisingly often.
 
For the simple clods who just don't mean to be rude, I answer quite flippantly "I'm doing fine!" with a a raised eyebrow as if to ask why they would even ask such a question. The truth is, "doing fine" includes not even exptecting anything for a long, long time after surgery. So, you are being completely honest when answering with "I'm doing fine."
 
Then, for the true clods (usually the hyper machismo) who deserve to be embarrassed for asking such a stupid question, I add a tag line like - "I didn't know you wanted to know me that way."  or  some other intimation of their orientation when it comes to my sex life.  If they ask it in front of other guys, these lines really get them to shut up in a hurry!
Paul
47 at Diagnosis.
Father died of Pca 4/07 at 86.
1/06 PSA 3.15
1/07 PSA 4.6      (Biopsy 3/07 just suspicious)
10/07 PSA 5.06   (Biopsy 11/07  1 of 12 with 8% involvment) (1mm)
Da Vinci surgery Jan 5, '08 at Mt. Sinai Hosp. NYC  www.roboticoncology.com
Saved both nerve bundles.
Path Report:  Stage T2cNxMx
-Gleason (3+3)6
-totally contained to prostate,
-10% involvement in L & R Mid lobes
PSA 0 at nine months.
Pad free on March 14 - (10 weeks.)
ED - Take 100mg viagra every night.
Totally usable erections at 10 weeks, which disappeared over the course of a month or two.
 Now limited success with cialis, viagra, rings, and luck. Waiting for that moment that is said to occur between nine and twelve months where things start to improve!
 


Bluenose
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Total Posts : 260
   Posted 11/7/2008 5:42 AM (GMT -7)   

 

....one of the reasons I wear the blue bracelet, if people have questions, I tell them ask away. Heck I'll tell them what kind of pad I'm wearing and if it has wings or not......I've explained, and shared what it's like to be watching TV, eating my sandwich for lunch.....with my pump and accomplishing my daily excercise! The difference between Viagra, Levitra  Guys and gals alike....no secrets here, nor does it make me feel any less of a man. When I first came to this site, one of the vets told me, "this is not a time to be macho".....they were right and actually, I feel dealing with this male issue....makes each and everyone of us bigger men than any of us ever thought possible. I mean, like Ive said over and over, we didn't stand in line and ask for this stuff! But we can  beat it, live with it, and educate others about it....and while doing all that, stand  tall and be proud of who and what you are, what it's taken us to get to whatever point on the road we're on, and all of our brothers that are doing the same thing...and if not for ourselves, then for the memories of those that did fight this beast to their last breath........I just feel like it's up to us to spread the word

      Good luck my brothers one and all...

 

 


 
   age: 53
   Pre-0p PSA  Feb. 08, 5.0
      4.22.08, 4.1
      PSA  spiked once about 8yrs ago to 5.0 three months later
      back to 2.9...then into the 1.2 range until my re-scheduled 
      "missed" appointment this past Feb.
      Biopsy 5.1.08 
      Gleason-3+4=7
      T2a
      5 of 15 cores positive
      Da Vinci scheduled..7.29.08..as I read somewhere on this 
      site....."the first show of the day"
       DaVinci completed 7.29.08, Bladder Sling installed, hernia repair 
       completed during surgery.    
        Sent home 30hrs,  JP drain in place 7days,
       Path report "cancer fully contained"....Margins clear
        Cath removed 8.8.08(ten days)...one lightly used pad 24 hours
        ED therapy begins 8.9.08. 100mg viagra three times a week,
        pump everyday and hold for ten minutes.
        8.16.08 switched to Levitra 20mg.......whahoo, got lucky...
        immediate results..... 
        9.15.08 pad free at night, one thin (light) pad during the daytime
        hours. Just because I'm chicken..!
         9.18.08 1st post-0p-PSA-Undetectable...Zero's!  Yes!
 
           ..."just tryin' to reason with hurricane season"..
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
       


Swimom
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   Posted 11/7/2008 6:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Don't recall anyone ever asking me if Paul could "get it up". I have had plenty be rude and thoughtless with my favorite comment... "Oh, well that's no big deal. Prostate cancer is curable these days." My comment back? Tell that to the 30,000 families of men who die each year in our country alone. Being uninformed, ignorant, leads to insensitivity. I guess it's our job to educate them.

Swim
 


Frank1205
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   Posted 11/7/2008 6:56 AM (GMT -7)   

Very well said indeed, Bluenose

 

Frank


LV-TX
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   Posted 11/7/2008 7:21 AM (GMT -7)   
So far about half the people when finding out I had PCa...responded with "Oh good...you had the type that is easily cured". And to top it off...a male co-worker (much younger) piped out..."Oh that cancer...man it's no big deal" You can imagine the look I gave him. Sad but true people don't understand this cancer very well.

I have only had a couple of people ask me about the ED part. The answer I give them, is that I am still recovering, but won't be an issue with me. Keeping that confidence up is necessary, cause sometimes I really worry about it inside and I definitely don't want others to know about my doubts.
Les
 
Age 58 at Diagnosis
Oct 2006 - PSA 2.6 - DRE Normal
May 2008 - PSA 4.6 - DRE Normal / TRUS normal-Gland 38 cc
July 2008 - Biopsy 4 of 12 Positive 5 - 30% Involved Bilateral (Perineural Invasion present at base)
Gleason (3+3) 6  Stage T1C
August 23 - Bone Scan - Hips, Spine and ribs marked uptake - X-Ray showed clear -Hooray
Sept 9 2nd DRE - questionable - TRUS...shadow in base - Gland now 41 cc
Robotic Surgery Sept 18, 2008
Pathology October 1,2008
Gleason 7 (4+3) Staged pT2c NO MX
Gland 50 cc
Seminal Vesicles and Lymph Nodes clear
Positive Margins Right Posterior Lobe
4 tumors in prostate - largest being 6 cm 
PSA Oct 08 <.05


James C.
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   Posted 11/7/2008 7:41 AM (GMT -7)   
I've not had a single 'outsider' to ask how its going with ED, so don't have to answer that question. Friends and family are always asking how I am feeling and how things are going, but in a general medical sense as to return of cancer or recovery in general. Most people seem to know about the incontinent issues, but not the ED issues involved.
Neither has my wife been asked, or even hinted. I have 3 'semi-friends-co-victims locally and we don't ask about it either, strangely . We have discussed every other detail of our journey, including info about using injections or ed drugs, even the pump, but only in the sense of helping rehab. Never ask is it working and how much. The assumption is it is, and the other stuff is to improve on it...lol
turn
James C.
Co-Moderator- Prostate Cancer Forum
Age 61
4/19/07 PSA 7.6, referred to Urologist, recheck 6.7
7/11/07 Biopsy- 16 core samples, size of gland around 76 cc. Staging pT2c
7/17/07 Path report: 3 of 16 PCa, 5% involved, left lobe , GS 3/3:6.
9/24/07 (open) Retropubic Radical Prostatectomy performed
9/26/07 Post-op Path Report: GS 3+3=6 Staging pT2c, 110gms, margins clear
10/15/07 ED- begin 50mg Viagra and Vacurect pump nightly, Fully continent
1/14/08 Caverject started/stopped, aching. 2/24/08 .5ml Bimix started-success
Present- 1 year: ED- Viagra, pump continues, no response- Trimix .10ml x 2 weekly continues
Post Surgery PSA's: 3 mts-0, 6 mts.-0, 9 mts.-0.


Tony Crispino
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   Posted 11/7/2008 8:34 AM (GMT -7)   
It's obvious that we are all on the same page here. When I turn to someone that says "it's the good one to get" I think the comment I make that get's the most attention is that over 500 men will die a week in the continental US alone, and in any two months the death toll from prostate cancer will exceed 9/11 and Katrina combined. And half of the survivors I know at websites are living with ED, incontinence, or in fear for their lives because it wasn't caught early enough. I don't hesitate to mention it's not uncommon either for the disease to relapse several years after a cure was thought acheived.

We have lost two guys in the last month alone here at HW. That is very frustrating to me.

Tony ~ with a tear in the eye.
Age 46 (44 when Dx)
Pre-op PSA was 19.8
Surgery on Feb 16, 2007 @ The City of Hope
Post-Op Pathology: Gleason 4+3=7, positive margins, Extra Prostatic Extension (EPE)
Bilateral seminal vesicle invasion (SVI); Stage pT3b, N0, Mx
HT began in May, '07 with Lupron and Casodex 50mg (2 Year ADT)
IMRT radiation for 38 Treatments ending August 3, '07
Current PSA (September 17 '08): <0.1 ~ Undetectable!
 
You can visit my Journey at:
 
STAY POSITIVE!
 
 


Smokie
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Total Posts : 46
   Posted 11/7/2008 9:15 AM (GMT -7)   
A gentleman I sometimes do business with happened to have PC surgery shortly after me. I was in his very upscale, quiet waiting room recently. As he opened the door to invite me back, he said, very loudly, "You still peeing in your pants?" I immediatly turned red. All I could think to say was "yes, but I do it on purpose now to keep the salesmen at electronics stores from messing with me."
I also get the 'you gettin it up yet' comments from other guys. Makes me wonder if the situation were reversed if I would ask someone that. I hope not, but can't say for sure. I guess the way we respond is linked to our personality type. Outgoing people may not mind sharing. Introverts, like myself, are not comfortable with others knowing our business, especially something so personal. Not being a good liar, or a quick thinker, I usually respond with something stupid like "I'm working on it".
Age: 43
Diagnosed at 41 by routine blood test
PSA at diagnosis: 5.1
Pre-op Gleason: 3+4=7
Post-op Gleason: 6 (different labs?)
No luck finding local experience with DaVinci
Scheduled RP at Vanderbilt: 8/06
Insurance trouble, rescheduled at Centennial Hospital, Nashville
Prostate removed 9/06
Robotic, nerves spared, no positive margins
PSA since RP: good (less than .05)
Currently suffer ED
 
 


Bluenose
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Date Joined May 2008
Total Posts : 260
   Posted 11/7/2008 10:14 AM (GMT -7)   

 

....I'll tell ya' Smokie, I'll talk about it with anyone, but, in a case like that, especially with a fellow member of the club. I think I may have told him no not in my pants, but I think I might go back here and whiz all over your office carpet!  What a jerk! sorry, just my two pennies! 

 Well said Tony. I have struggled with a response to  that one too...I've always mentioned some of what you say, but not all. If you don't mind, I'll be using your reply to that statement....our two brothers here have been on my mind as well. May they rest in peace..
 
   age: 53
   Pre-0p PSA  Feb. 08, 5.0
      4.22.08, 4.1
      PSA  spiked once about 8yrs ago to 5.0 three months later
      back to 2.9...then into the 1.2 range until my re-scheduled 
      "missed" appointment this past Feb.
      Biopsy 5.1.08 
      Gleason-3+4=7
      T2a
      5 of 15 cores positive
      Da Vinci scheduled..7.29.08..as I read somewhere on this 
      site....."the first show of the day"
       DaVinci completed 7.29.08, Bladder Sling installed, hernia repair 
       completed during surgery.    
        Sent home 30hrs,  JP drain in place 7days,
       Path report "cancer fully contained"....Margins clear
        Cath removed 8.8.08(ten days)...one lightly used pad 24 hours
        ED therapy begins 8.9.08. 100mg viagra three times a week,
        pump everyday and hold for ten minutes.
        8.16.08 switched to Levitra 20mg.......whahoo, got lucky...
        immediate results..... 
        9.15.08 pad free at night, one thin (light) pad during the daytime
        hours. Just because I'm chicken..!
         9.18.08 1st post-0p-PSA-Undetectable...Zero's!  Yes!
 
           ..."just tryin' to reason with hurricane season"..
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
       


Roger G
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Total Posts : 150
   Posted 11/7/2008 11:39 AM (GMT -7)   
To tell you the truth it does not bother me one iota.
 
about Men:
 
about six months after surgery I was at my daughter's travel hockey tryouts shooting the crap with a bunch a other dad's.  Eventually someone asked how I was fairing with my cancer, as he had been on my daughter's team last year.  At that point it became a free for all of questions about PCa and it's side effect...  a taboo subject for them shocked  .  I answered every question I could along with the ones on ED.  I stressed that they needed to get in for annual PSA checked.  At one point during the conversation one of the wives walked over to see what we were talking about.  They knew it was not sports related so were currious.  tongue All conversation stopped until she was asked polity to leave.....  At this point I brought up the importance of working as a team to beat this thing.
 
This is not a subject that their fathers had talked to them about.  I only learnt about PCa when both my father and my father in law were diagnosed in the early 90's.  I also learnt how serious it was when I closed my father's casket and said my goodbyes.
 
about Women:
 
My wife has had long conversations with other women and also with my mother in law about ED.  Yes my mother in law.  She was trying to pass along some advise from her experiences when my father in law was treated for PCa.  It was funny to hear he say what drugs worked best for them.  For the most part the questions raised relate to a fear of the loss of intimacy.  Women in their 40's still like to have sex. yeah  
 
In Conclusion:
 
Both Men and Women are asking about your ED not necessarily because they are clods, but because they are SCARED confused of this side effect.  They want to here that everything is ok and that they will not have to worry about this side effect when PCa comes knocking.  They want to be reassured that they have nothing to worry about.


Age: 43 (2008)
DRE Small Ridge on prostate, PSA 1.5
07/2007: Diagnosed cancer, T2c, Gleason 3+4=7
08/2007: Bone Scan found something on my skull. PCa surgery on hold
             Had piece of skull removed to test for PCa.
09/2007: Laparoscopic prostectomy @ Hamilton General, 4 hrs.
             Both nerve bundles spared
             Pathology Report: Tumour confined w/in prostate
             T2c, Gleason is 3+3=6
             Went home with JP drain
10/2007: Made return trip to hospital.  All urine was coming out JP drain.
10/2007: Catheter removed. Next to no leakage
11/2007: 1st PSA <.003.  Started Viagra for ED, no response yet.
             Having some issue with Vertigo from skull operation.
12/2007: Had confidence to go padless!!!!!
12/2007: ED:  Stopped Viagra as it's causing hemroid problems.
01/2008: 2nd PSA <.003 :) ED: next to no response.
             Vertigo is subsiding.
04/2008: 3nd PSA <.003 :) ED: Changed the Viagra prescription.
07/2008: 4nd PSA <.003 :) ED: Still NADA.  Changing to Cialis.
             Dizzy spells are occurring more often
09/2008: Trying Levitra 


rob2
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   Posted 11/7/2008 12:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Great post. I don't get many questions but when I do I smile and say I am cancer free. From the start, for me, it was always about the cancer and not the erections. My doctor told me i talked to him more about the incontinence than I did about the ED issues. My order was cancer, incontinence, and then worry about the ED. sure enough I had ED but I am continent and so far cancer free. I am a very LUCKY person and that is what i tell people. This site is good because we know what we went through. I believe a lot of people just don't know how to ask questions about cancer, etc. That is why i rely on you guys so much because we are going through the same issues.
 
Age 48
occupation accountant
PSA increased from 2.6 to 3.5 in one year
biopsy march 2008 - cancer present gleason 7
decision - surgery (robotic)
surgery may 9, 2008 - houston, tx
pathology report -gleason 8
margins clear
4 week and 6 week PSA >.04 (undetectible)
12 week PSA <.04
continent at 10 weeks (no pads!)
kegel's twice a day 20 reps


kreplerfp
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Total Posts : 56
   Posted 11/7/2008 7:59 PM (GMT -7)   

I am glad that I started this post. I agree with what everyone is saying. I also don`t appreciate it when people play down our type of cancer, because they all seem to have a uncle or great grandfather who had it and it, and they make these comments such as, oh they were just fine. They don`t have any idea what its takes physically and mentally to get through all of what we go through.

 I guess all we can do if keep putting the word out there to others to keep up their PSA tests and not to be embassassed, or afraid, to get checked out ,to find out that they may have cancer. If we all can do that, and save one or more individuals, then we can say that there was a purpose to our cancer.

Fred

God Bless all

 


Diagnosed Feb 08
 
PSA 6.3
gleason 3+3
T2C
first biopsy 1 of 10 needles positive
surgery Sept 18 08
bone scan negative
evidence of sinus histiocytosis?
involvement of the margins identified at right and left apex and right anterior surface
also perineural invasion
no extraprostatic extention
no seminal vesicle invasion
tumor cells aggressive features of moderate to severe pleomorphism
possible radiation depending on first  PSA  Nov 12
kept left side bundle of nerves but lost some of the right side bundle


Lungman
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Total Posts : 276
   Posted 11/7/2008 9:36 PM (GMT -7)   
I am glad you started the post as well. It seems that some people, esp guys, like to behave like a schoolyard bully, finding an assumed weakness and making light or fun of it. I feel like a lot of people in our society relate ED to weakness in character and it making you less of a man. I have been surprised by the complete lack of sensitivity shown by some, even friends, who are calloused in their approach. Also, I have mentioned here before how one of my pet peeves is being told that if you have to have cancer, this is the one to have. I was even told this by my first urologist !! If anything, the public awareness of the disease in real terms is really lacking. For the most part, the average person thinks you get diagnosed, have surgery, and live the rest of your life in one of two ways, one being completely normal immediately, or second, a incontinent, impotent second rate man. Sorry for the rant, I feel better now.

Randy
46 you when diagnosed, now 47
Pre-Op PSA 9.9
1 of 12 cores positive, Gleason 3+3
DaVinci on 9/5/2007
Post-Op Gleason 3+6, Negative Nodes and Margins
Less than 1% of prostate involved with CA
3 Month PSA 0.01, 6 Month PSA 0.01, 9 Month PSA 0.01
One Year PSA 0.01
Incontinence resolved 9/15/2007, one day after cath removal
ED showing significant improvement.
Cialis 5 mg every night.
Success with BiMix


Swimom
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   Posted 11/8/2008 4:38 AM (GMT -7)   
So, is it rude to barter for PDE5's? I've traded a Doc's student (employee) tutoring. Hope it isn't too insensitive but it really gives DH a chance to test all doses and types on the market.

:>)
 


kreplerfp
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   Posted 11/8/2008 5:48 AM (GMT -7)   

 

 For all of us who have gone through the ordeal ,we`ve gone through, deserve to rant and rave a little. Its good therapy for bundled up stress. I work at a Ford dealership as a salesman for 23 years, and when the guys aren`t busy, all some of these guys want to talk about is every female that comes through the door they want to do them. Since my surgery my life has changed and though sex is still important to me, its not them same importance as before. A few of these guys ask me about it because they don`t know and they ask me hoping I tell them I can`t get it up, so behind me back they can have a joke or 2 about it.

One of them made a comment about in his words.. a bummer not being able to blow a load again.

Well it ticked me a little and I asked him if his wife preformed oral sex on him, and he kind of looked funny, and I said well I thought so. I then said well thats to bad, I bet shes afraid of the mess of the semen, well I told him my wife is so happy about my situation without the semen, that my oral sex will increase for me...too bad for you and I walked away

I hope this post isn`t to offensive to others on HW but I think it needs to be talked about. I`m

still a man whether I ejaculate semen or not. My rant

Fred

 

 

 


Diagnosed Feb 08
 
PSA 6.3
gleason 3+3
T2C
first biopsy 1 of 10 needles positive
surgery Sept 18 08
bone scan negative
evidence of sinus histiocytosis?
involvement of the margins identified at right and left apex and right anterior surface
also perineural invasion
no extraprostatic extention
no seminal vesicle invasion
tumor cells aggressive features of moderate to severe pleomorphism
possible radiation depending on first  PSA  Nov 12
kept left side bundle of nerves but lost some of the right side bundle


rob2
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Date Joined Apr 2008
Total Posts : 1131
   Posted 11/8/2008 6:57 AM (GMT -7)   
Lungman, you are 100% correct. when i posted people don't know what to say you stated it better. People have told me pc was the best to have and they know xxxxx who had it and he is fine. people that say that do not know gleason, margin, etc. They don't know (and I hope they never find out) what it is like when the doctor tells you "you have cancer". To be perfectly honest, initially when i was told I had cancer, I couldn't say the word without crying.
 
Age 48
occupation accountant
PSA increased from 2.6 to 3.5 in one year
biopsy march 2008 - cancer present gleason 7
decision - surgery (robotic)
surgery may 9, 2008 - houston, tx
pathology report -gleason 8
margins clear
4 week and 6 week PSA >.04 (undetectible)
12 week PSA <.04
continent at 10 weeks (no pads!)
kegel's twice a day 20 reps

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