Was just reading your post above, I feel I know where you are coming from. The spouses of the men are hit hard in every way, I am amazed how little there is out there for that kind of support, either in books, on-line, in person. Most of the self depression I feel throughout this PC ordeal, is not for myself, but because of the suffering I see my wife silently taken every day. I see it in her face, in her tireness. I do my best to help her out, but I am still weak and feel defenseless sometimes. I want to be all that I was before this surgery, but I am not there yet. It bothers me that she is having to work so hard, and then still find time to deal with me when she is home. And now with my mother with a stroke, she feels the obligation of being her daughter in law for almost 35 years and because she is a nurse, she feels even more obligation to assist. You have a right to feel depressed at times, Diane, you and Pete have gone through so much together, and still have more to deal with in the future. If you ever need meds or prof. help on the depression, don't be ashamed, it can be a trememdous help (I say this from first hand knowledge in the past). To me, life is neither fair nor unfair, it is what it is, and comparing oneself to another's situation never helps, like I tend to do sometimes. I am sure many think of you two often here, and away from here, as I do myself. Perhaps this year, 2009, will be the start of something good for you guys, and for each of the men and their families here. Wishing you only the very best.
David in SC
56, 56 at DX
PSA 7/7 5.8, 7/8 12.3, 9/8 14.9, 10/8 16.4
3rd Biopsy 9-2008 Positive 7 of 7 cores positive, ranging from 40 - 90%, G 4+3 & 3+4
Open RP surgery November 14, 2008 at St. Francis Hospital, Greenville, SC, Dr. Ronald Smith - Surgeon, Non-nerve sparing, 4 days in hospital, staples removed 11/24/8, Catheter out on 12/15/8 on day 32. Day 33, urine stopped flowing, new catheter put in 12/16/08, Catheter out 12/29/08. After 7 hours, complete stoppage again, emergency room put in Catheter #3 early evening of day 45, still 12/29/08. New appt. to see dr. on 1/5/9 as result.
Post-surgery Pathlogy Report:
Gleason 3+4=7, pT2c pN0 pMx, Prostate 42 grams, tumor 20% cancer
Contained in capsular, neg. margins apex, bladder neck, right lobe, neg. in seminal vessels and lymph nodes.
First PSA Post Surgery Scheduled now for 2/9/9