James, just reading your post above. Not judging anyone here, every man is a different case here, but to me, it seems like some really try to rush to the sex part, perhaps it's like you said, they want to see what the feeling is like or to assure themself that there is hope (?). Or perhaps I am the odd man out here, after 7 weeks, there's no part of me that even wants to think about sexual things, that may because of my never ending catheter problems, I admit. I would love to spend some "quality" time with my wife, but seems like everytime we gave it serious thought, be right back to a cath problem. Guess I am afraid if I got aroused with the catheter in, but then with a non-nerve sparing operation, probaly wishful thinking on my part. When I see my doctor at 3 months mark for the first PSA, he said he would spend some time on the ED part. Please don't get me wrong here, everybody must do what they feel they should and what they need. This whole PC has turned my life upside down, and left me unsure of lots of things in life, that I never felt that way before. Having good sex, whenever I had a need, was always an assumed thing, it was always there, and I could always perform without a problem. Knowing this might or would all change after my operation was theory before the fact, now that it is reality, it is a bit scary, because no matter what I want or think, it will never, ever be the same as before. Part of me can handle that, and part of me can't.
David in SC
Age 56, 56 at DX
PSA 7/7 5.8, 7/8 12.3, 9/8 14.9, 10/8 16.4
3rd Biopsy 9-2008 Positive 7 of 7 cores positive, ranging from 40 - 90%, G 4+3 & 3+4
Open RP surgery November 14, 2008 at St. Francis Hospital, Greenville, SC, Dr. Ronald Smith - Surgeon, Non-nerve sparing, 4 days in hospital, staples removed 11/24/8, Catheter out on 12/15/8 on day 32. Day 33, urine stopped flowing, new catheter put in 12/16/08, Catheter out 12/29/08. After 7 hours, complete stoppage again, emergency room put in Catheter #3 early evening of day 45, still 12/29/08. New appt. to see dr. on 1/5/9 as result.
Post-surgery Pathlogy Report:
Gleason 3+4=7, pT2c pN0 pMx, Prostate 42 grams, tumor 20% cancer
Contained in capsular, neg. margins apex, bladder neck, right lobe, neg. in seminal vessels and lymph nodes.
First PSA Post Surgery Scheduled now for 2/9/9