I've barely started, but I had a few questions about post-op sex life:
(1) Does erection become separated from orgasm? Seems like I can have an erection, but that may fade and orgasm may come later. Could it be that groups of nerves have literally become separated, no longer acting in concert? What is the impact of that?
(2) Is frequency still related to horniness? Before, my desire to have sex was related to how often I had it. When my 'strategic reserves' were down, I was not horny, but if time passed I became horny. Since I no longer have 'strategic reserves', is frequency a factor or does one have a steady-state desire?
(3) In general, I hear and I believe I am experiencing, the need for more stimulation. What experiences do people have with how that affects love play with partner, for good or bad?
(4) I also noticed that my 'card deck' became confused. How does one still maintain the strong primal urge towards intercourse when 'the goods' will not be delivered (procreation drive)? The cards in my deck have all switched to pity sex, the naughty nymph mode is gone.
What tricks, tips and ways to mentally buff up does anyone suggest?
Any meaningful citations out there?
Thanks one and all.
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PSAs 1.6, 1.8, 2.0 at yearly intervals, mild DRE finding (hindsight unrelated) lead to biopsy
3/08 1st biopsy, 18 core. Pathologist 1, HPIN and ASAP, 0.5mm 1 core. Pathologist 2, carcinoma
7/08 2nd biopsy, 16 core. Pathologist 1, 1 core carcinoma. Pathologist 3, 3 cores carcinoma
Urologist retired. Referred to another Dr in same practice, not experienced enough.
12/22/08, robotic davinci at U of Washington Med Center, Dr. William Ellis. 6 hr procedure. Both nerves spared.
12/31/08 catheter out
Final path report:
79 g prostate gland
1.5 cm^3 cancerous (<5%), bilateral, T2c, Gleason 3+4
Margins clear, seminal vessels clear, 14 lymph nodes negative
Dry immediately after catheter out.
ED - some nocturnal erections even with catheter.
1st orgasm at two week mark. 50% erect, BJ w/o the mustard.
Needs more stimulation, orgasm ok, but my 'card deck' is confused, need to reprogram what this is for.