Mike, I am also here in Virginia Beach, and I remember how scared I was when I first joined this club. This board is great for support and information. I'm not sure I would have made it through the last 15 months with my sanity without the fantastic men and women who post here. Try and read up and learn as much as possible before your next meeting with your Doctor. I found it best not to dwell on the worst, but to learn as much as I could so I would better understand this cancer, and know how to fight it. I found a great young Urolgist in Norfolk that I highly reccomend, if you want a second opinion. We are all here to help you!