Hi everyone ... first, I don't want to freak any of you out by acknowleging that I'm a 'female' and 44... but I can absolutely talk the language of prostate cancer - da vinci machine surgery - and post-prostate removal activities and frustrations.
My 54 yr. old, musician, and significant other of 6 years had to have his prostate removed 1/8/08. We did a LOT of research as you likely all can concur this decision is NOT an easy one. We decided that the da vinci was the best route to go as we were assured it was the least invasive of the surgeries for total removal of the prostate. Prior to his surgery we noticed his frequent urination, and declining erection control. This is what led him to seek answers to why he was having these symptoms. Before all of that we had a fantastic and healthy sex life.
We were assured that though we could expect a period of anywhere between 3-8 months before bladder control and sexual function would be potentially fully intact ... it could actually be up to 2 years post surgery before sexual function would be back.
It's now been 13 months since surgery. His bladder control came back completely just 5 weeks post-surgery (so we're thinking YEAH sexual recovery should be just around the corner!). Not so. Immediately post surgery - while still in the hospital ... he was put on Cialis. He took that faithfully for a year since. In late Jan. 09, he met with his urologist to discuss the fact that 'nothing' was happening in the erection department. He has done the penis pump faithfully as well, tried the rings, etc.. Urologist gave him an abundance of Cialas, Viagra and Levitra and said 'experiment and see if something works'.
Aside from the horror of reaching the point in which a specialist simply hands out meds and says basically 'hey, i have no idea, try these ...' .... it was an emotionally and mentally draining experience as well - as this is the point where it became evident that we likely are no longer on a 'progressive' recovery ... but rather ... potentially ... a permanent pitfall.
Which brings us to today ... none of the combinations or experiementations of those three pills made any difference. He suffered side effects from the Viagra that we both agreed were definitely not worth taking them again.
He spoke with his urologist two days ago, said he was ready to try the last resort of 'injections'. He received those meds today. To my astonishment ... he was not told to come in to the dr. office to be injected the first time to learn what dosage is appropriate for him to begin, much less given a 'hands on' instruction on how to overcome the mental discomfort of injecting his own dick with a needle.
So, the meds came ... no instruction, no indication of dosage amount whatsoever. Calls the dr. they're out for the day.
Now, this may seem a testimony that most don't want to hear ... but I feel it should be said. This is a real scenario. It's an emotional and mental upheaval to say the least. I feel his urologist is very neglegent with the medication - Prostaglandin -E1 20 MCG/ML - but now that it appears we're at this level of 'not' being able to have a normal or even any sexual life again ... it's horrible.
All that stated ... he is able to achieve orgasm and was able to achieve that (sans the fluid as removal of the prostate disallows the seminal fluid you used to have) - at about the 6 week mark, though no erection.
Thanks to any of you who read this whole thing .. I appreciate just being able to discuss it.