Greetings, Dan and Mrs. Dan. Just an affirmation of what others have said here and that is I wouldn't be where I am today without a supportive wife both before and after surgery. It is obvious you are a supportive couple and will make it through this trial/tribulation.
For what it's worth, I was doing pretty well in the ED department fairly soon after surgery. My doctor had said to take Cialis or Levitra and he gave me samples of each. When I was able to function so soon after surgery, I didn't take the drugs and in hindsight that was a mistake. I never got totally back to full function. Now I take the ADC version of a 20mg Levitra 2 times a week and am ready to go when needed. Of course it takes a good bit of help from my wife, but that's a good thing!
It's still early yet and I'm sure with the 2 of you working on it together you will soon see the desired results. Just remember that after surgery lovemaking is different - not worse just different. In many respects the intimacy is much better and we are closer than ever. All things considered I would just as soon have not had prostate cancer, but since I did have it we choose to look at the bright side and see all the good things that have happened.
Keep up the good work. David