I moved your post here for more attention...Welcome to HealingWell. Stage 4 prostate cancer is typically incurable. Depending on how aggressive it is will help determine if it can be managed well. There are Stage 4 patients that have survived over a decade even longer, and there are those that a short battle. Some of the things you should ask for are:
What is his PSA?
What is his Gleason Score?
Where has it spread to?
What has his doctor suggested as treatment?
If he had a biopsy, then that report is valuable. It will help understand his cancer better. We have a lot of experience here. many doing well with stage 4 and we will be glad to help with things. One thing I will suggest ~ if you are a guy then you need to be tested. If you are a gal, then your son's or other brothers need to be aware of this development.
Peace, and please post additional information if you can get it.
Age 46 (44 when Dx)
Pre-op PSA was 19.8 : Surgery at The City of Hope on February 16, 2007
Geason 4+3=7, Stage pT3b, N0, Mx
Positive Margins (PM), Extra Prostatic Extension (EPE) : Bilateral Seminal vesicle invasion (SVI)
HT began in May, '07 with Lupron and Casodex 50mg (2 Year ADT)
IMRT radiation for 38 Treatments ending August 3, '07
Current PSA (January 13, 2009): <0.1